"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Confused needing some advice!

jetset22

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I've gotten lots of good info from you guys but never had to post. Recently however, I've become a little confused and need some guidance. 2 years ago I dated a girl for 6 months. Liked her a lot. She broke up with me for a stupid reason. This past Christmas I ran into her and she called and we started spending a lot of time together. She was talking to a guy so she started dating him and didnt talk to me for the duration of their relationship ( a month). Now that they broke up we talk quite a bit and spend time together as well.
Here is my problem - I think she still talks to other guys, she drinks quite a bit, goes to the club often (which I don't really like), and today I found out she might have posted an ad on craigslist looking for a sugar daddy. This was totally unexpected but the age, height, and weight match. Also she has been saying how she wants to be spoiled lately. So my question is - Since I really like her, should I continue to spend time with her and take it to the relationship level or are girls like this nothing but trouble?
Thanks guys:confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think the general opinion would be to hump and dump, and don't spend a dime on her. Get the lay, then ditch her ass.

Then again I could say that about any chick. They all have secrets to hide, and things that would make them not be worthy for anything more than a lay.
 

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jetset22 said:
I've gotten lots of good info from you guys but never had to post. Recently however, I've become a little confused and need some guidance. 2 years ago I dated a girl for 6 months. Liked her a lot. #1 She broke up with me for a stupid reason. This past Christmas I ran into her and she called and we started spending a lot of time together. #2 She was talking to a guy so she started dating him and didnt talk to me for the duration of their relationship ( a month). Now that they broke up we talk quite a bit and spend time together as well. Here is my problem - I think she still talks to other guys, #3 she drinks quite a bit, goes to the club often (which I don't really like), and today I found out she might have posted an ad on craigslist looking for a sugar daddy. This was totally unexpected but the age, height, and weight match. Also#4 she has been saying how she wants to be spoiled lately. So my question is - Since I really like her, should I continue to spend time with her and take it to the relationship level or are girls like this nothing but trouble?
Thanks guys:confused:

#1 She broke up with you for a stupid reason = she just lost interest. move on unless you want one-itis
#2 You're her "Fallback guy" which means the only reason she's talking to you is so she can satisfy her lust for attention until a better guy comes along
#3 Okay, you don't like that stuff about her clearly, ask yourself this, "why is she worth my time?"
#4 She wants to be spoiled = Buy me some stuff chump.

I suggest you leave her alone completely, she's using you and you'll just get demoralized and crushed if you continue this relationship.
She's a golddigger, so unless you have booku bucks, there's no point.
 
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