"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Confused need help please ASAP

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Today i appoarched an american girl today, i had a fullproof plan, coz i saw her going out with friends to a club. I approached her by saying "did u go to a club last week" she said "no" then i was asked her name she told me, i asked where she was from she replied and then i asked her if she'd like to come to a club this weekend she said "ok" so i was happy. Then the dreaded 3 words i asked if i could get her number she doesnt have her phone on her and that she doesnt know it. But said next time i see her i could get it....

Now was that a way of saying shes not interested?

If its not how should i approach her the next time. I dont want to look desperate, but out of all the girls ive approached ive never been as nervous as i have been with her
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ok. what reason would she have to give you her number? did you have a conversation with her? were the two of you making some kind of plans or...? it's cool that you're approaching and actually talking to women [this is the all important first step] but it sounds to me like you were just nervous and awkward
(for women, nervous+awkward = creepy = no phone number)
and didn't give her a reason to WANT to see you again. you need to gain some skills at a very basic level, and get out there and practice.
btw -- she wasn't interested. don't ask again for her number.
 

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Try getting some, you know, FRIENDS?

These posts sadden me. These interactions sound so artificial... because they ARE.

Human beings don't relate to each other this way... well, the rest of the planet does... wanna-be pick-up artists seem to think otherwise.
 

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Originally posted by smoke city
ok. what reason would she have to give you her number? did you have a conversation with her? were the two of you making some kind of plans or...? it's cool that you're approaching and actually talking to women [this is the all important first step] but it sounds to me like you were just nervous and awkward
(for women, nervous+awkward = creepy = no phone number)
and didn't give her a reason to WANT to see you again. you need to gain some skills at a very basic level, and get out there and practice.
btw -- she wasn't interested. don't ask again for her number.
What if I see her again, ignoring her would make it weird that, one day i asked for her number and the next i ignore.

She said i could get it next time i see her, how should i approach her. Should i not ask for it till she gives it to me?
 
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