"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Confused HOw to respond to the 'Is he interested? Sh1t test

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Now I've browsed female advice forums much like these ones and quite often teh advice given to girls is to say to the first offer of a date just to see if he is interested.

Given that the advice here is to next a girl who turns us down or spin plates how do we know if we aren't being tested to see how interested we are?

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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:-) said:
Now I've browsed female advice forums much like these ones and quite often teh advice given to girls is to say to the first offer of a date just to see if he is interested.

Given that the advice here is to next a girl who turns us down or spin plates how do we know if we aren't being tested to see how interested we are?

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By not caring....if a woman is playing games....you shouldnt have time for a girl like that.

In all honesty if a woman were to straight up reject my date request....she gets "next-ed". There are plenty of women on this planet so there is no need to waste time with ones that are "not interested".
 

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Interesting

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Now I've browsed female advice forums much like these ones and quite often teh advice given to girls is to say to the first offer of a date just to see if he is interested.

Given that the advice here is to next a girl who turns us down or spin plates how do we know if we aren't being tested to see how interested we are?

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What female messages are you on. Rex needs to get over there.
 

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Then they can shıt test themselves all the way till menopause. I'll ask twice, and if I get 2 bullshıt answers in a row, I'm done. If she's looking for a guy that pursues, begs, pleads, and puts up with her shıt, then she's looking for a beta chump to control, so none of us here would be looking to date her.

So not only is it a bad move on her part, but in reality, it's a true incompatibility issue that you figure out very quickly when you sense the shıt test.

Bonus you. :rockon:
 
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