Confused by the post-first-date

[MountainSlide]

Went out on a date with this girl, she was really beautiful and we had a good time.

Afterwards (same night) she sent me a text thanking me for the fun date.

I called her the next evening, no answer. Haven't tried to contact her since, it's been a couple more days now, but if you miss someone's call, is it not the normal thing to at least get back to them with a text??

I don't like it when I'm confused lol.

 

[btownbuck2012]

She's seeing multiple guys and you're not her primary option right now.

If you got the "thanks I had a good time" text you probably didn't do anything wrong, it's just modern dating.

 

[Young OG]

Did you meet her online?

Most women nowadays don't like it when you call them. Try texting her. If shes replies, throw in some small talk and then ask her on another date. If shes ghosts or doesn't say yes for another date, then delete her number.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Why did you call her so soon after your first date? That makes you look needy.

You should only be contacting her to set up dates at this point, and you shouldn't be setting up more than one date per week with her.

 

[nismo-4]

Why did you call her so soon after your first date? That makes you look needy.

You should only be contacting her to set up dates at this point, and you shouldn't be setting up more than one date per week with her.

Second paragraph is very true.

First paragraph is all about her interest i.e. if she is into him a lot, he can call 3 days later or 3 hours later and she'll answer. If she's not into him, he failed the date (didn't score high enough), so all his calls are ignored, even 3 months later.

Call too early: you're needy.
Call too late: you're disinterested and she has a new man.

Forget this and read her interest. If your calls get ignored, you didn't come in first place.

If you're not first, you're last. Like applying for a job.

 

[The Duke]

A woman with high interest will never leave you confused.

 

[Aesthetix29]

You did nothing wrong, date went well ... she is just broadening her horizons, you will not be the only bloke she's going on dates with. Don't chase, I made this mistake more times than I can remember and it only ever worked against me, I would say maybe spin more plates .. and be alpha!

I think she will shoot you a text soon just to keep you on the back burner. GL FELLA

 

[bigneil]

OP just wait a week and text. Early on, we are low on their priority list and need to chase them a bit.

A woman with high interest will never leave you confused.

In a short term sense such as this OP, this is true, but in a long term sense, this is false. A woman with high interest over the long term will test the sh!t out of you in an attempt to gain control. Around the 3 month mark it's easy to confuse high interest with low interest.

 

[BeExcellent]

A woman with high interest will never leave you confused.

Opinions differ here about who should contact who first but lack of response indicates lack of interest. If she has true high interest level she will respond...and if it's a delayed response she'll explain it. "Was flying...just landed" for example.

Many men here are so busy hoping a oneitis likes them (and spinning their narrative to support the delusion) that they actually fail to read it as low interest.

Only go with high interest women. Basics 101.

 

[marmel75]

As the Oracle in the Matrix once said:

"My dear child...you'll learn there is no confusion. For that would be impossible. Simply an uninterested woman.

Now go have yourself a cookie....before you know it, you'll realize how silly this whole thing was, that you weren't interested in her anyway and everything will be right as Rain...run along now..."