Conflicted About Whether Or Not I Need To Do Something

[Zapp Brannigan]

Lately I've been catching myself feeling affection, and having thoughts that I need to make a move on this girl from last semester. I haven't seen her this
year, but know where I can run into her.

I watched Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind the other night, and it was odd how similar it was to real life. I pretty much see myself as Jim Carrey's character, and this girl is like Kate Winslet's. Long before watching it I imagined things playing out like the relationship on the film did, especially with how they broke up, but at the end they still took the chance to know for sure. I'm thinking now maybe I should take the chance with this girl, just so that way I'd know.

In class I always played things smoothly with her, kept mysterious, and talked/flirted when I had a proper chance to. She liked it, seemed drawn towards me from that, and started flirt/talking to me often. But after a little bit she stopped, and I overheard her talking to her friend about having a new boyfriend. The last time I saw her was when classes got out, she acted sincerely interested and kept saying my name every chance she had.

What kept me from making a move were a few things that I typically see as red flags. She smokes, has several tattoos, a piercing or too that wasn't in the ears, orbiters via snap chat and text, and she would cuss. But I always (and still) thought maybe she wasn't like the other girls into that stuff, she seemed to have this innocence about her that you never see with other girls into those wild thrill seeking activities. Her social media didn't display any red flags either.

Last year during the spring semester I spent a little bit of time pining over this girl from the previous fall. I got a chance to make a move but something in me said "no" so I don't ask her out. Later on find out she was living a double life full of drinking and God knows what else. Thinking about the similarities in situations, part of me believes I might be making a mistake, because I dodged a bullet with that other girl.

What do you think? Should I leave this one in the past?

 

[EvilSpirit22]

Yes you should kill your feelings towards her. You've already answered your query. Red flags, alcohol, smoking etc. When you don't want certain qualities or bad habits in a person then you are suppose to not compromise with your principles just for the sake of feeding your lovey dovey feelings for that person.


Your feelings towards her are actually blinding you and you're unable to see the bad things about her. You do like her because of her so called innocence which is I guess because of her cute looks but deep inside she's a wild animal who loves to party and maybe blow some ****s too.


Never judge a book by its cover and a person by his/her looks.

 

[Yewki]

You've wasted way too much time and energy with this girl. Are you going to write a thesis on her or what? Either find her and escalate things immediately, or focus on other things/girls.

Comparing your situatoin to a movie isn't going to do you any favors either. Hollywood love stories are nonsense. There is no doubt your ability to attract this girl has been negatively impacted by your previous behavior and lack of action. But if you want to bang her, go for it... not necessarily just to get her, but so that you're better equipped to deal with the next girl. Think ahead.

 

[EveryPostHere]

Watching a movie about romance????? SMFH. Even if the girl is trouble, pump n dump. She's wife material? Pump n dump. No matter what that is the universal solution to your question.