"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dietzcoi

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By now you all know I am the number one enemy of marriage on this site!

RacerX and Westcoaster... dead on as usual

If you only knew how much I regret my marriage and family mistake!

I could be retired from the Army right now and living on the beach somewhere with a reasonable pension... instead my ex wife will be getting half and I am faced with possible time in Iraq or Afghanistan.

If that doesn't scare the chumps away from marriage, I don't know what will.

But they won't listen... they listen to their hormones instead.

Dietzcoi
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Austin Allegro

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I'm 32, and have not had an LTR for seven years. Since becoming a DJ, I've confronted the fact (it's always best to confront your fears) that I might not ever get married or have children - and to be honest, it does not seem all that bad.

Someone pointed out that people follow popular tv culture like a life script, and this is certainly true of marriage. Most people seem to chase the ideal of being 'happily married'.

As Mick Jagger famously sang 'all of these people just can't wait/To walk right into their big mistake'.

I am certainly NEVER going to marry UNLESS it is to a woman who understands what marriage actually is - ie, NOT a fairy tale chick lit pantomime of endless 'romance' - but a social, civil and religious contract, mainly intended for the upbringing of legitimate children. They will also need to understand that marriage has its ups and downs (for better, for worse) and that it will not always be a smooth ride.

However, as the chances of meeting such a woman are virtually zero, I think I am likely to stay single.
 
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