Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I will be picking her up. She doesn't even know the first place we're going to (HB is new to the area)! :crackup:yougottaknow90 said:are you giving her a ride? if so, an easy way to do this would be to text her telling her to be ready by 6 or whatever. short and simple. it's only damaging if it's done days in advance and is unnecessarily long. keep it blunt. always.
if you're meeting here somewhere, that's a little bit harder. sometimes it's okay to be up front depending on the vibe she's given you beforehand. this is the method i prefer. a safer alternative would be to suggest a change of venue. i.e. i've got this other place i wanna show you. (restaurant name) @ 6.
by the way, the upfront method would just be to text something like, ""restaurant name" at 6. no question mark or anything, don't even imply the possibility of her flaking. cos if you do, she might capitalize on the opportunity and leave you hanging. remember, keep it blunt so you don't come off ass needy/obsessive.
in most cases she'll reply. if not, then don't go. if she makes a stink about it, say you assumed she didn't reply b/c something came up and so you made other plans. then reschedule.
cool. sounds like fun.The LadyKiller said:I will be picking her up. She doesn't even know the first place we're going to (HB is new to the area)! :crackup:
I know what you mean. I can text her the time I expect to pick her up. HB is aware of the general time range, so maybe, "I'll pick you up at 6:15." ?yougottaknow90 said:cool. sounds like fun.
another easy way to "remind" her without sounding desperate is to let her know you're going to be 15 or however many mins late if a time has already been predetermined.
also, typing these posts reminded me of how much reading into can be required at times.. something like a reminder can set the tone - good or bad - for the rest of the evening depending on how it's done.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sounds like a good vibe. i think what you have written there is good. short and to the point.The LadyKiller said:I know what you mean. I can text her the time I expect to pick her up. HB is aware of the general time range, so maybe, "I'll pick you up at 6:15." ?
Probably should include the variable here. I asked her out only a few days in advance (our schedules don't match up great), and she is with family earlier in the day. She eagerly expressed that she is 100% down to go as long as she is back on time.