Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Confident Role Models

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I'm interested to know who people here would define as epitomizing confidence and the (non-physical) traits associated with attracting women.

I've been paying more attention to men (from a heterosexual pov, of course) and male celebrities and the way they hold and compose themselves.

A few that spring to mind are:

Robert DeNiro - very cool, calm and unshakeable, deep voice etc.
Randy Orton (WWE) - self-assured, smooth, slow and collected.
The Rock (WWE) - Magnetic, charismatic and in control.
Denzil Washington - serious and steadfast, yet laidback.

Any more you can think of?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ben affleck and vin diesel in boiler room seem good role models
 

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Just look at your average rapper. They are great role models when it comes to modeling after their attitude, charisma, ambition, style. Just don't go overboard and start killing people, stealing money, selling drugs, raping girls, etc. Focus on their positive sides. You might wanna model yourself from some R&B artists. They're all about sex and love just like the rappers, but their not hardcore, their more mellow and romantic.

50Cent
Snoop Dogg
Chingy
Jay-Z
R. Kelly (no raping lil kids tho..jk)
Avant
Damon Dash
P. Diddy
Will Smith (confident with a great positive vibe!)
Al Pacino's "Scarface" (Just stay away from the drugs)
Brad Pitt
Jay Leno
Chris Rock
Donald Trump

etc etc etc...

Reseach some of today's leaders in industry and business. You'll find that most of them are so successful because they have the upmost confidence in themselves, check them out.

Just look all over the media, its FULL of successful, confident people to take on as role models. Don't ever try to become them tho, no one likes a wannabe, they're fake. Take the qualities you like from your role models and add them to your own life.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree with many of those mentioned. However, I don't think I could ever aspire to be like those rappers you mentioned. Take away their money and success and you're left with a very cliched, immature and (in some cases) a somewhat mentally retarded impression. Nothing makes me cringe more than a wannabe rapper. R&B artists have more class though, so I agree there.
 

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What about Kiefer Sutherland in 24? He always seems in charge
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Indeed Jack Bauer is pretty smooth, but if you have been watching series 3, you have to give credit to Stephen Saunders. That guy is completely cool, composed and in absolute control. He's not even a tough guy, he's just very smart.
 

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Bruce Willis! he is the man. ever seen The Last Boyscout? he don't take no **** from no one. he doesn't let women own him... they are attracted to him. also my look alike, the brotha Denzel Washington. he is a very smart person and can probably pull off anything. and yes, Robert DeNiro is well known to be an attractive man, and it sure ain't his looks... but his personality and attitude towards women and other people for that matter.
 

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Fred Durst

Tommy Lee

Vince Neil

Nikki Sixx

Matthew Barnaby
 
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PuertoRican_lover!!!
 

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Marlon Brando

Tom Cruise

Muhammed Ali

Will Smith

Jack Black (fat, but supremely confident and charismatic)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So Many Ways

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Sean Connery -- He has that attitude. There's a reason why 20 something chicks get wet over him even though he's 70. He has that attitude and confidence that women automatically find attractive. I want that attitude and confidence and his characters are excellent models for that.

Morgan Freeman -- I can't remember the name of the movie, Keanu Reeves was in it, there was an explosion in a lab where they had developed cold fusion. Morgan Freeman's character was so cool and laid back despite the fact that everything was falling apart around him. His character was an excellent model for body language, self control and attitude.
 

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Pierce Brosnan

Mel Gibson

Russell Crowe

Tom Sellek

Cary Grant

Clark Gable
 

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Any British people remember Spencer from UK Big Brother? All he ever did was sit and smoke, and yet in a couple of weeks he became one of the most desired males in the country, with the hottest housemate in the palm of his hand.

I wish I could watch the series again just to see how he did it.
 

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thats cause uk girls never close their legs. too easy.
 

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Randy Orton is a good one but it's all about Shawn Michaels

enough said

Shawn Michaels or Ravishining Rick Rude.

I'd say Michaels because he always made it known that at the end of the day he didn't give a ****.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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