"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Confident Role Models

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I'm interested to know who people here would define as epitomizing confidence and the (non-physical) traits associated with attracting women.

I've been paying more attention to men (from a heterosexual pov, of course) and male celebrities and the way they hold and compose themselves.

A few that spring to mind are:

Robert DeNiro - very cool, calm and unshakeable, deep voice etc.
Randy Orton (WWE) - self-assured, smooth, slow and collected.
The Rock (WWE) - Magnetic, charismatic and in control.
Denzil Washington - serious and steadfast, yet laidback.

Any more you can think of?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ben affleck and vin diesel in boiler room seem good role models
 

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Just look at your average rapper. They are great role models when it comes to modeling after their attitude, charisma, ambition, style. Just don't go overboard and start killing people, stealing money, selling drugs, raping girls, etc. Focus on their positive sides. You might wanna model yourself from some R&B artists. They're all about sex and love just like the rappers, but their not hardcore, their more mellow and romantic.

50Cent
Snoop Dogg
Chingy
Jay-Z
R. Kelly (no raping lil kids tho..jk)
Avant
Damon Dash
P. Diddy
Will Smith (confident with a great positive vibe!)
Al Pacino's "Scarface" (Just stay away from the drugs)
Brad Pitt
Jay Leno
Chris Rock
Donald Trump

etc etc etc...

Reseach some of today's leaders in industry and business. You'll find that most of them are so successful because they have the upmost confidence in themselves, check them out.

Just look all over the media, its FULL of successful, confident people to take on as role models. Don't ever try to become them tho, no one likes a wannabe, they're fake. Take the qualities you like from your role models and add them to your own life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I agree with many of those mentioned. However, I don't think I could ever aspire to be like those rappers you mentioned. Take away their money and success and you're left with a very cliched, immature and (in some cases) a somewhat mentally retarded impression. Nothing makes me cringe more than a wannabe rapper. R&B artists have more class though, so I agree there.
 

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What about Kiefer Sutherland in 24? He always seems in charge
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Indeed Jack Bauer is pretty smooth, but if you have been watching series 3, you have to give credit to Stephen Saunders. That guy is completely cool, composed and in absolute control. He's not even a tough guy, he's just very smart.
 

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Bruce Willis! he is the man. ever seen The Last Boyscout? he don't take no **** from no one. he doesn't let women own him... they are attracted to him. also my look alike, the brotha Denzel Washington. he is a very smart person and can probably pull off anything. and yes, Robert DeNiro is well known to be an attractive man, and it sure ain't his looks... but his personality and attitude towards women and other people for that matter.
 

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Fred Durst

Tommy Lee

Vince Neil

Nikki Sixx

Matthew Barnaby
 
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PuertoRican_lover!!!
 

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Marlon Brando

Tom Cruise

Muhammed Ali

Will Smith

Jack Black (fat, but supremely confident and charismatic)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So Many Ways

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Sean Connery -- He has that attitude. There's a reason why 20 something chicks get wet over him even though he's 70. He has that attitude and confidence that women automatically find attractive. I want that attitude and confidence and his characters are excellent models for that.

Morgan Freeman -- I can't remember the name of the movie, Keanu Reeves was in it, there was an explosion in a lab where they had developed cold fusion. Morgan Freeman's character was so cool and laid back despite the fact that everything was falling apart around him. His character was an excellent model for body language, self control and attitude.
 

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Pierce Brosnan

Mel Gibson

Russell Crowe

Tom Sellek

Cary Grant

Clark Gable
 

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Any British people remember Spencer from UK Big Brother? All he ever did was sit and smoke, and yet in a couple of weeks he became one of the most desired males in the country, with the hottest housemate in the palm of his hand.

I wish I could watch the series again just to see how he did it.
 

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thats cause uk girls never close their legs. too easy.
 

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Randy Orton is a good one but it's all about Shawn Michaels

enough said

Shawn Michaels or Ravishining Rick Rude.

I'd say Michaels because he always made it known that at the end of the day he didn't give a ****.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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