confidence vs ****iness?????

[shadowinurdreams]

We all know women like confident men and somehow they can smell any insecurities from a distance lol but out of curiosity what would you guys say confident is and when is the line crossed to being to ****y?

I am also basing this around men and women that are mature mid 20's and up (i know plenty of 30 yr olds that are immature but for the sake of the argument lets assume 25 and up for women and men a couple years older)

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

****iness is kosher in moderation, though with no regard for what she is going to think of it. IMO, excessive ****iness is a symptom of unconfidence (ie: posing). We should work to build our inner temple, and the outer acoutrements take care of themselves.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Confidence is not trying to bullsh!t anybody. ****iness is usually bullsh!t.

 

[Perfect10]

This is how I see it.

If you're confident: You move confidently, talk calmly, not brag, not overexaggerate, social, brave in any situation, take the spotlight but not being needy.

****y: You move overlyconfidently but it seems mechanical since you're thinking about moving "extra cool", Talk too much with an assholish voice trying too hard, bragging, overexaggerating, being forcefully social, trying overtly hard to be social which makes you seem weird, trying to take spotlight in a needy way which makes you unintresting.

 

[Nino-Tk]

****yness on its own is whack but ****y and funny..works like a charm

 

[zekko]

If you're confident: You move confidently, talk calmly, not brag, not overexaggerate, social, brave in any situation, take the spotlight but not being needy.

****y: You move overlyconfidently but it seems mechanical since you're thinking about moving "extra cool", Talk too much with an assholish voice trying too hard, bragging, overexaggerating, being forcefully social, trying overtly hard to be social which makes you seem weird, trying to take spotlight in a needy way which makes you unintresting.

This makes perfect sense to me but I still find that if you put on the exaggeration a bit (****iness) the girls eat it up. It disappoints me to say this, but that's my experience. Don't know why they respond to it, but they do. It's equivalent to a girl sticking her boobs out, I guess. They're there anyway, but they're making them more noticeable.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

****iness is only as good as the mindset from which it comes.

 

[DavenJuan]

This makes perfect sense to me but I still find that if you put on the exaggeration a bit (****iness) the girls eat it up. It disappoints me to say this, but that's my experience. Don't know why they respond to it, but they do. It's equivalent to a girl sticking her boobs out, I guess. They're there anyway, but they're making them more noticeable.

no reason to be "disappointed".

****iness CAN be sexy to some women, but only to an extent..IMO. just like the girl who shows her boos that you referenced. If she ALWAYS has those suckers out, people will start to catagorize her as an attention *****. when she does it subtly, its more appealing.

in my experience, sometimes confidence can cause issues with other peoples perception of you. at times, some may intepret this as ****y. so be it.

when you stop carrying so much about what others think of you, that in itself is confidence.