confidence problem too hard on myself

[sportf190]

hey guys i think i discovered my problem with girls i notice that when i get rejected by one or whatever it will really bring me down and affect me bad... but i noticed this in life general as when i play sports for example basketball if i miss a layup or somethin i will get reallly pissed and like give up for a little bit i think they have something to do with each other and i want tot know how to work on it thanks

 

[AC/DC]

Its a part of growing up. When you dont get something your way as a kid, you whine about it and pout.

Now, you're turning into a man, and you need to get over it, figure out what you did wrong, and fix it.

 

[AustinG]

i suggest you get over youre fear of rejection...how you ask? well you should go up to girls and get rejected on porpose say some stupid **** so you get used to rejection and you wont be afraid to be rejected! trust me man it works.

 

[Damian]

Learn how to handle rejection. The easiest thing to do is to laugh it off. Stop taking life so seriously and live it on your own terms. You don't need to be able to score a goal or instantly pick up a chick to be confident. Confidence does not rely on what you do, but instead upon how you feel about yourself. You shouldn't need any reason or excuse to be confident. You should be confident just as you are. If you are satisfied with yourself, no matter what you do, this is projected as confidence.

-Damian

"The essence of being confident is just being happy with who you are."

 

[sportf190]

alrihgt man yeah im going to work on that cuz i just thought that ive been noticing that and it probaley relates to women... so just go out and live and i dont care any more you know thanks alot any one else?

 

[sportf190]

im not scared of gettin rejected guys i thin kwe got it wrong lol.... i will go up to girls its just that i take it hard after if i do get rejected and it will RUIN my night i was just wondering on some tips to make that go away a little

 

[j8snx1]

if you said that you're not scared of getting rejected, then it shouldn't ruin any day of your life to begin with!

But anyway, I suggest doing something that you can really enjoy... like

reading
drawing
sleeping
playing games
go out with your buddies (recommended)
work out (also recommended)
etc

you know...do something productive to get your mind off the whole fact that rejection ruined your day. It shouldn't screw with your lifestyle. It's your life, you be in control of your emotions!

 

[Sharpe]

Just remember that you are better than them - They are the ones missing out by not being with you.