"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Confidence/Looks Ratio

Give me a confidence/looks ratio. What is more important based on your experience!

  • 100% confidence, 0% looks

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 75% confidence, 25% looks

    Votes: 5 23.8%
  • 50% confidence, 50% looks

    Votes: 10 47.6%
  • 25% confidence, 75% looks

    Votes: 3 14.3%
  • 0% confidence, 100% looks

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Hard to tell. There are other components that are important too.

    Votes: 3 14.3%

  • Total voters
    21

DiegoSantori

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I know, it's an old subject for discussion but I want to make it a little different. How important is confidence compared to looks? Just give me an exact ratio in percentage.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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AttackFormation

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Remember that the halo effect means that good-looking people will be assumed to for example be more confident. That can be part of why women say they want a confident guy, and why they say "he wasn't confident. What they really mean is his looks were/weren't good enough for them to perceive him as confident. So it's hard to say.
 

amazingswayze

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3:1 confidence

i put 75% confidence and 25% looks because I think back to the 6 or 7 girls I've hooked up with, and I realize that my looks only got me 1 girl. She called me cute and I got her number, went to her house a week later.

Every other time was me having the confidence to initiate.

I wish I was blessed with better looks, because game would be easier.

All I can do is work towards a killer body, dress nicer, and keep myself groomed.

what about you guys?
 

Suspens

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BrainDamage92 said:
One comes from the other.
I disagree. A guy with a ripped body could have more confidence than a good looking fatty. A rich fatty with billion dollar business has more confidence than a model, etc
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BrainDamage92

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Suspens said:
I disagree. A guy with a ripped body could have more confidence than a good looking fatty. A rich fatty with billion dollar business has more confidence than a model, etc

hmmm...

when I think about it, what confidence I hace comes from the fact I look good, like genetically, am tall, father is a Bruce Willis clone, mother is a 45 y old milf (I just hope I dont go bald like him). They are both hyper-intelligent but too idealistic which makes them marginals which I cant make them understand. But mostly, my confidence comes fro mthe fact I am certain 90 % of the people are dumber than me.


But Imma bum who can sweetalk dont mind me :D
 

zekko

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I voted 50/50 because I think looks will give you confidence (generally). If girls keep telling you that you are hot you are going to be more.confident that girls will perceive you as hot. PUA gurus call this validation, but it's actually positive feedback.

Conversely, if girls never compliment you, you're likely to experience some doubt (less confidence).
 

skinnyguy

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Agreed with zekko.

Why is it that the hot guys are most confident? Cause they get positive responses from women.

The ugly AFC can't get confidence unless he fakes it. That only lasts so long.

Some ugly dudes might get confidence thru money but they attract gold digging *****s. I'd rather be a broke hot guy because they attract everything.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Idk man, having confidence with a weak personality doesn't mean **** to a girl. Looks do matter, but in a more primitive way.
 
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