After realizing that the only way to see other girl's as just other people, was to have my confidence at a reasonable level.
Now.. I'm a recovering social phobic (recovering well, I might add), and I think I still have a scar in the back of my mind left unhealed...
Whenever I'm at school at ALL, even if no one's around, I feel like... like a child! I literally feel like an immature weirdo/creep/geek/dork that doesn't deserve anyone's attention!..
BUT! I am comfortable around this one girl, because I HATE her emo attitude and she's.. not quite pretty (overweight, doesn't take care of herself). And I can make her laugh easily, and I don't feel like a creep at ALL, maybe because she's being the creep for me..
Anyway, I don't know what to do! I've had compliments and I KNOW I'm not anywhere near as ugly as I think!
I used to be able to get nervous just imagining a social situation..
But now I'm fine at home! I feel confident that tomorrow is the day that I give people a good impression of me! Instead of the "omg quiet, ridiculously smart guy".
ANY advice is welcome, because my situation calls for a broad range of treatments (non-medical)... and I'm willing to attempt all.
Basically.. I'm doing pretty much everything right, except I .. I don't seem to know what I look like! And this prevents me from saying what I want to say, and using body language to full advantage...
..Thanks!
p.s. I have hobbies (reading), and I'm in decent shape (better than 60% of males, not gonna be modest). And I'm 15 (better to start young right?).
Now.. I'm a recovering social phobic (recovering well, I might add), and I think I still have a scar in the back of my mind left unhealed...
Whenever I'm at school at ALL, even if no one's around, I feel like... like a child! I literally feel like an immature weirdo/creep/geek/dork that doesn't deserve anyone's attention!..
BUT! I am comfortable around this one girl, because I HATE her emo attitude and she's.. not quite pretty (overweight, doesn't take care of herself). And I can make her laugh easily, and I don't feel like a creep at ALL, maybe because she's being the creep for me..
Anyway, I don't know what to do! I've had compliments and I KNOW I'm not anywhere near as ugly as I think!
I used to be able to get nervous just imagining a social situation..
But now I'm fine at home! I feel confident that tomorrow is the day that I give people a good impression of me! Instead of the "omg quiet, ridiculously smart guy".
ANY advice is welcome, because my situation calls for a broad range of treatments (non-medical)... and I'm willing to attempt all.
Basically.. I'm doing pretty much everything right, except I .. I don't seem to know what I look like! And this prevents me from saying what I want to say, and using body language to full advantage...
..Thanks!
p.s. I have hobbies (reading), and I'm in decent shape (better than 60% of males, not gonna be modest). And I'm 15 (better to start young right?).