"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Confidence Issues?

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After realizing that the only way to see other girl's as just other people, was to have my confidence at a reasonable level.

Now.. I'm a recovering social phobic (recovering well, I might add), and I think I still have a scar in the back of my mind left unhealed...

Whenever I'm at school at ALL, even if no one's around, I feel like... like a child! I literally feel like an immature weirdo/creep/geek/dork that doesn't deserve anyone's attention!..

BUT! I am comfortable around this one girl, because I HATE her emo attitude and she's.. not quite pretty (overweight, doesn't take care of herself). And I can make her laugh easily, and I don't feel like a creep at ALL, maybe because she's being the creep for me..

Anyway, I don't know what to do! I've had compliments and I KNOW I'm not anywhere near as ugly as I think!

I used to be able to get nervous just imagining a social situation..
But now I'm fine at home! I feel confident that tomorrow is the day that I give people a good impression of me! Instead of the "omg quiet, ridiculously smart guy".

ANY advice is welcome, because my situation calls for a broad range of treatments (non-medical)... and I'm willing to attempt all.



Basically.. I'm doing pretty much everything right, except I .. I don't seem to know what I look like! And this prevents me from saying what I want to say, and using body language to full advantage...



..Thanks!







p.s. I have hobbies (reading), and I'm in decent shape (better than 60% of males, not gonna be modest). And I'm 15 (better to start young right?).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I KNOW I'm not anywhere near as ugly as I think!"

HOw is that possible?
 
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Originally posted by originaldj
"I KNOW I'm not anywhere near as ugly as I think!"

HOw is that possible?
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Sorry.. what I ment was..


"I KNOW I'm not anywhere near as ugly as I feel
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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