Confidence is a bi-product of not giving a fvck

[Bokanovsky]

Imagine that you go out for drinks with a girl you met online. The moment you see her in real life, a sense of disappointment washes over you, as you realize that she does not look quite the way you thought she would based on her pictures. You already know what you're going to do...have one drink, talk about some B.S. for an hour or so, then come up with an excuse why you need to leave early. And never talk to her again. During that one hour though, something interesting will happen to your demeanour. No attempts would be made to impress your date...there will be no worrying about saying something that she might disapprove of...and no awkward moments caused by shyness. In other words, you would become naturally confident because you have nothing to lose.

In this particular example, the source of confidence is lack of attraction. But it doesn't have to be. Let's say you find your date attractive but you have 5 other equally hot girls that you could be banging. Whether or not you succeed with this particular female is immaterial because you have so many options. Or say you have so much sh!t going on in your life at the moment that getting laid is the least of your concerns. In all of these situations, you will find yourself feeling more confident that you normally would because you simply don't care about the outcome all that much. And that is the essence of confidence.

 

[skinnyguy]

Yes. But how does this apply to pick up game? If you approach a girl you've already shown you're attracted to her. How do you show you have options and don't give a fvck?

 

[Eph]

Yes. But how does this apply to pick up game? If you approach a girl you've already shown you're attracted to her. How do you show you have options and don't give a fvck?

What part of this had anything to do with showing "you're attracted to her", or "showing you have options and don't give a fvck"?

 

[The411]

Seems like you stepped out of your house and went online dating for the first time. It's not confidence, it's indifference because you are a catfish victim. Yes, you could try out everything you wouldn't have the balls to with a hot girl because you could care less about the fatty that is sitting next to you.

The source of confidence is NOT lack of attraction, you dummy. Be the prize? Make her chase? Strop thinking attraction is a fvcking strategy game. A women who is attracted to you and wants you to get in your pants will do so without half the bullsh!t most SoSuave 'Gurus' make it out to be, your your post included.

Go out, live life and stop fvcking worrying if you are doing the right thing. Women come and go, you can't change that. They either like you or they don't. Analyzing is a poor excuse to why you are unsuccessful with them.