"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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confidence has just taken a beating..

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..i'm with a girlfriend right now which is going fairly well..

but i've just got my first ever cold sore.
and with that, i'm pretty worried about having herpees..
i don't know where it came from.

can anyone share some experiences which they may have had with cold sores/herpees?

i'm most worried about havign herpees because how would a new girlfriend react to that? u know what i mean?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some people just get them. I get them like once every 2 years, this has been going on since I was like 5, so it's not sex related. You can get treatment for it at a local drug mart, will make it disappear within a week, so just avoid her during that time if you want.
 

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dont give yourself unneccessary stress.

if you are truely concerned with STDs, I'd recommend getting a blood test and not worrying until you get the results.

most cold sores are common and can form from stress, getting over an illness, burned/chapped lips, etc.
 

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Here's the deal: there are two strains of the herpes virus. I will call them A and B. Herpes A causes cold sores and nothing else. As stated in a previous post you may have had it for some time and never shown any symptoms. No big deal. Cold sores appear at times when the immune system is depressed (i.e. high stress, other diseases present).

Herpes B is genital herpes. We all know and fear that bad boy. The same applies, after initial infection symptoms only appear when the immune system is depressed.

Here's the scary part. It is *possible* but *very rare* for B to be transmitted orally. For example, if you were eating out a girl with B (she may not have had symptoms) and had a cut on your lip or something you could have picked it up. This means the cold sore is the B strain and will be on your gentials soon. However, I cannot stress enough how RARE this is.

If you've never had a cold sore before go for the blood test. That way you'll be certain.

- HV
 

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Originally posted by quest
..i'm with a girlfriend right now which is going fairly well..

but i've just got my first ever cold sore.
and with that, i'm pretty worried about having herpees..
i don't know where it came from.

can anyone share some experiences which they may have had with cold sores/herpees?

i'm most worried about havign herpees because how would a new girlfriend react to that? u know what i mean?
1) Are you sure its oral herpe breakout? make sure this is confirmed by doctors.
2) Herpe virus is very old. it's virtually everywhere. animals carry them as well. over 80%+ north american adult has oral herpes.
3) Herpes can be transmitted via skin to skin contact without even having a cold sore.
4) Your girl friend most likely have HSV-1 already .. so do not feel so shamed or worried.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Speaking as a medic who has seen a lot of guys (and girls) fret over that knid of thing:

If in doubt, See your Doc.

He/She are paid to deal with this kind of problem, and will do so discreetly and as efficently as possible.

So remember, if you think something's up, see your doc. It might well save your life.
 
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