"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You can get confidence for free and I know how! well its free as you do not have to work for the confidence but its not free in the monetary sense. So what you do is send a cheque to... just kidding, so heres what you do, go out and buy expensive clothes, not only will you look better but physcolgicaly you will think the clothes are better then some one who does not know they are expensive and so when you walk around in them you will feel a lot better aobut your image then if you had just bought them form the 99c store, even if someone else colud not tell the diffrence. I dont think $150 is a bad price to pay for making yourself belive you look good.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So it's free... but it'll cost you $150.
 

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Originally posted by Triple X
So it's free... but it'll cost you $150.
the title is confidence for nothing, and you dont have to do anything much just spend some money.
 

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I think he means "emotionally" free, in that buying clothes isn't something that leads to rejection. Mind you, have you ever tried to buy $150 jeans? The people in those kinds of places are snobbier than British Royalty.
 

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Originally posted by nosexbox
I think he means "emotionally" free, in that buying clothes isn't something that leads to rejection. Mind you, have you ever tried to buy $150 jeans? The people in those kinds of places are snobbier than British Royalty.
i duno, i never had that problem, not that i but such expensive jeans, my shirt, jacket, jeans and shoes together cost like £170 thats like $300 so its expensive but not overly expensive.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sorry to have to disagree but this is crappy advice. No one should have to buy expensive clothes to achieve self confidence.

Self confidence CAN be achieved through clothes but there's no reason they should be expensive. If you wanna feel confident through clothing, ask a girlfriend or maybe a female coworker to go shopping with you.

A better and more solid way to achieve self confidence is to get it from within. Doesn't cost a thing, it is absolutely free, and guess what? You won't even have to spend any money! :rolleyes:
 

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Hmm... well I don't think you can acheive self-confidence purely by buying some new designer clothes. However I do think it certainly helps.

Can also help when you've been dumped/rejected etc... retail therapy??
 

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If you feel like ****, not even expencive cloths will help (unless your a woman)
 

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If "clothes make the man", then you weren't that much of one to begin with.

Besides, who's stupid enough to pay $150 for someone's name on your pants. I'm sure you can get jeans just as good for a lot less.
 
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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
You can get confidence for free and I know how! well its free as you do not have to work for the confidence but its not free in the monetary sense. So what you do is send a cheque to... just kidding, so heres what you do, go out and buy expensive clothes, not only will you look better but physcolgicaly you will think the clothes are better then some one who does not know they are expensive and so when you walk around in them you will feel a lot better aobut your image then if you had just bought them form the 99c store, even if someone else colud not tell the diffrence. I dont think $150 is a bad price to pay for making yourself belive you look good.
Yes you could do this or you could work hard and gain true confidence that won't wear off when you take the clothes off. Clothes are nice and all but get some real confidence that you get when you are comfortable in your own skin.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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course oyu need real confidence, just that i feel good about myself, and when im in good clothes that fit well and everytinhg i feel hot, fi i wore jeans 3 sizes to big and a shirt down to my knees i just dont think i would mange to feel hot.
 

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The problem with this is that you are relying on the external, material, superficial for your confidence.

If you are not confident in yourself then you do have a problem. If you maintain strong beliefs and values, you should have nothing to fear. But this cannot be achieved by buying clothes. When you do this you are only "confident" in that other people will like you more, not that you will like yourself more. You shouldn't depend on other people to uphold your character. By doing that you are giving them your soul.

All confidence comes from being sure of yourself. When you rely on others to make the rules, how can you ever be sure of yourself? Your life depends on their standards, so you can only measure yourself through their opinions.

Not my way to live.
 

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I don't think you guys are getting what he's trying to say.
THis isn't supposed to by THE main or even close to the main way of getting and mainting good confidence levels.
This is more of a fake it until you make it aproach for guys who need the artifical confidence, so they can a get boost and get some real sustaniable inner-confidence. Or those with an little stronger external locus of control then where they probaly should be.
 

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Originally posted by Nocturnal
The problem with this is that you are relying on the external, material, superficial for your confidence.

If you are not confident in yourself then you do have a problem. If you maintain strong beliefs and values, you should have nothing to fear. But this cannot be achieved by buying clothes. When you do this you are only "confident" in that other people will like you more, not that you will like yourself more. You shouldn't depend on other people to uphold your character. By doing that you are giving them your soul.

All confidence comes from being sure of yourself. When you rely on others to make the rules, how can you ever be sure of yourself? Your life depends on their standards, so you can only measure yourself through their opinions.

Not my way to live.
Agreed!
 

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I like what you said. But how much would you spend on pants or a shirt?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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