"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Confidence Fluctuations

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Trying to become better with approaching women and having conversations I find myself hitting up the mall or some sort of enviornment with a lot of girls around. At this point I am not trying to number close, just to get over my approach anxiety is what I am working on.

Anyway, on Wensday I was at a clothing store looking for some new jeans and I see this chick (HB7) several feet away from me. I slowly make my way to her and initiate small talk for about 10-15 minutes and we go our sepeate ways. Then about 20 minutes later I see another girl (HB8) and talk to her too. I left the store feeling pretty good for what its worth...felt pretty confident as soon as I entered the store.

The very next day I went to the mall but the complete opposite happened...I felt like ****. I saw some good looking girls but I did not have the balls to approach one of them and felt like complete garbage the whole time I was there. I pretty much wasted one hour of my time leaving with my head held down. It just didn't click for me that day. I find this strange considering that I had a good time the day before.

This is not anything new. One day I will feel like Superman and the next day I feel like the guy that Superman beat the crap out of. I present myself the best I can every time I go out. Maybe I need to approach more girls in more of a secluded area compared to a busy place like a mall. I don't know...I just find this odd.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DarthAngel707

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Yes, I know what you mean. However, think of your confidence as fluctuating like the stock market: it'll go up and down, but the main thing is that it keeps moving up.
 

DonGorgon

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Yup human confidence is affected by success and failure rates and external influence and opinions of others... NO normal person can maintain high confidence we all have up and down days..

The strong people are those who can pull them selves up easily and quickly and or conceal lack of confidence so others cant see it and judge them....
 
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