"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Confidence Fluctuations

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Trying to become better with approaching women and having conversations I find myself hitting up the mall or some sort of enviornment with a lot of girls around. At this point I am not trying to number close, just to get over my approach anxiety is what I am working on.

Anyway, on Wensday I was at a clothing store looking for some new jeans and I see this chick (HB7) several feet away from me. I slowly make my way to her and initiate small talk for about 10-15 minutes and we go our sepeate ways. Then about 20 minutes later I see another girl (HB8) and talk to her too. I left the store feeling pretty good for what its worth...felt pretty confident as soon as I entered the store.

The very next day I went to the mall but the complete opposite happened...I felt like ****. I saw some good looking girls but I did not have the balls to approach one of them and felt like complete garbage the whole time I was there. I pretty much wasted one hour of my time leaving with my head held down. It just didn't click for me that day. I find this strange considering that I had a good time the day before.

This is not anything new. One day I will feel like Superman and the next day I feel like the guy that Superman beat the crap out of. I present myself the best I can every time I go out. Maybe I need to approach more girls in more of a secluded area compared to a busy place like a mall. I don't know...I just find this odd.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DarthAngel707

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Yes, I know what you mean. However, think of your confidence as fluctuating like the stock market: it'll go up and down, but the main thing is that it keeps moving up.
 

DonGorgon

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Yup human confidence is affected by success and failure rates and external influence and opinions of others... NO normal person can maintain high confidence we all have up and down days..

The strong people are those who can pull them selves up easily and quickly and or conceal lack of confidence so others cant see it and judge them....
 
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