"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Confidence Doesn't Exist

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The first thing we need to do is drop the term Confidence all together.

What we need to do is focus on what we want to do, and how to do it.

Thinking about confidence only screws your game up.

Right when ur doing good, it starts.

"Am I confident yet? Am I flirtatious?"....**** that!

Forget confidence!

What we really want to pursue is more decisiveness.

Learn to react on an instinctive level. You'll learn that when interacting with a girl, the first thing that pops in your mind is what works the most!

And its all situational.

Learn what to do in a certain situation so that it isn't a problem.

If its something new, nervousness is natural. Embrace your anxiousness and just do the ol' trial and error. Its only worked for thousands of years.

Learn to just say "**** it" and just go all out.

Don't put pressure on yourself!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bunk 040

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Confidence does exist, you just don't have it!
 

TyTe`EyEs

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Nice post. Thinking too much will only fvck you up. It is best to work on being spotaneous.
 

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Isn't saying whatever is on your mind or just pops up a confident thing?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You just defined confidence.

JUST DO IT. (tm)
 

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ya master hormer (nice name :D) is right if u dont have confidence then u wont even be able to spontanious.because youll be to scared to just go up to her.
 

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I disagree. Confidence does exist. Confidence is not HAVING to think about confidence all the time. Confidence is the power to do something without fear of the possible negative consequences. If you think confidence is something that you have to think about all the time, you're mistaken. Confidence is not a thought...it's a state of being that aspiring Don Juans strive to acheive, and a state of being in which true Don Juans exist.
 

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If you have to think "Am I confident?" then you obviously aren't. Like others have pointed out, confidence means that you feel comfortable doing whatever you're doing without thinking twice.

Basically, you claimed confidence doesn't exist and then explained exactly how a confident person acts.
 

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^^^
Anyone can act the part.


Confidence is just an illusion, a way people percieve you.


I used a poor choice of words for a title.

Confidence may exist. But as DJ's, confidence comes naturally if we focus on purpose and fun.

So for the purpose of becoming confident, it best to focus on real world things.

Now you guys might be experienced DJs, and if that is the case, then this is not for you.

New DJss do not need to look for confidence. They need to become confident by defeating what holds them back and fufilling their own wildest dreams.

My post was directed at people looking for confidence. Not at Master DJs like you gentlemen.

PEACE
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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