Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Confidence Doesn't Exist

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The first thing we need to do is drop the term Confidence all together.

What we need to do is focus on what we want to do, and how to do it.

Thinking about confidence only screws your game up.

Right when ur doing good, it starts.

"Am I confident yet? Am I flirtatious?"....**** that!

Forget confidence!

What we really want to pursue is more decisiveness.

Learn to react on an instinctive level. You'll learn that when interacting with a girl, the first thing that pops in your mind is what works the most!

And its all situational.

Learn what to do in a certain situation so that it isn't a problem.

If its something new, nervousness is natural. Embrace your anxiousness and just do the ol' trial and error. Its only worked for thousands of years.

Learn to just say "**** it" and just go all out.

Don't put pressure on yourself!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bunk 040

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Confidence does exist, you just don't have it!
 

TyTe`EyEs

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Nice post. Thinking too much will only fvck you up. It is best to work on being spotaneous.
 

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Isn't saying whatever is on your mind or just pops up a confident thing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You just defined confidence.

JUST DO IT. (tm)
 

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ya master hormer (nice name :D) is right if u dont have confidence then u wont even be able to spontanious.because youll be to scared to just go up to her.
 

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I disagree. Confidence does exist. Confidence is not HAVING to think about confidence all the time. Confidence is the power to do something without fear of the possible negative consequences. If you think confidence is something that you have to think about all the time, you're mistaken. Confidence is not a thought...it's a state of being that aspiring Don Juans strive to acheive, and a state of being in which true Don Juans exist.
 

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If you have to think "Am I confident?" then you obviously aren't. Like others have pointed out, confidence means that you feel comfortable doing whatever you're doing without thinking twice.

Basically, you claimed confidence doesn't exist and then explained exactly how a confident person acts.
 

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^^^
Anyone can act the part.


Confidence is just an illusion, a way people percieve you.


I used a poor choice of words for a title.

Confidence may exist. But as DJ's, confidence comes naturally if we focus on purpose and fun.

So for the purpose of becoming confident, it best to focus on real world things.

Now you guys might be experienced DJs, and if that is the case, then this is not for you.

New DJss do not need to look for confidence. They need to become confident by defeating what holds them back and fufilling their own wildest dreams.

My post was directed at people looking for confidence. Not at Master DJs like you gentlemen.

PEACE
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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