I just wanted to point out an observation I've made during recent experiences about how confidence works in positive and negative cycles.
A few months ago I reached a high in my confidence. Within a week I met my gf who placed me on a pedestal and wanted to be with me nonstop. Then I was scouted for a modelling competition. Everywhere I went people were commenting how great I looked, almost every woman I met was flirting and complimenting me in a big way, I was turning heads and getting girls wolf whistling me in the street, I'd talk to some women and could see them getting flustered, while several people were telling me I could have any woman I want...and at that time I believed it.
Then my gf dumped me and started playing cruel games with me. My confidence hit a low point and I suddenly started noticing less attention from women. Women stopped flirting with me and some even seemed dismissive. I was depending on some attention to lift my self-esteem and when I didn't get it, I sunk even lower. I tried making eye contact in clubs and received a few scowls. I reached a point of paranoia, wondering what had changed so dramatically - was it my hair, my skin, had I lost/gained weight etc.
But it's simply a matter of confidence. My friend pointed out to me that I've been walking around with a scowl on my face and my body language has been very tense and defensive. In short, my low confidence (and neediness) is making itself physically obvious and is giving off unattractive vibes.
So clearly it's a viscious cycle that becomes a downwards spiral. You feel low, you get less attention and you feel worse. But this works in reverse too and I believe success with women can be greatly improved if you can just get into a positive confidence cycle.
A few months ago I reached a high in my confidence. Within a week I met my gf who placed me on a pedestal and wanted to be with me nonstop. Then I was scouted for a modelling competition. Everywhere I went people were commenting how great I looked, almost every woman I met was flirting and complimenting me in a big way, I was turning heads and getting girls wolf whistling me in the street, I'd talk to some women and could see them getting flustered, while several people were telling me I could have any woman I want...and at that time I believed it.
Then my gf dumped me and started playing cruel games with me. My confidence hit a low point and I suddenly started noticing less attention from women. Women stopped flirting with me and some even seemed dismissive. I was depending on some attention to lift my self-esteem and when I didn't get it, I sunk even lower. I tried making eye contact in clubs and received a few scowls. I reached a point of paranoia, wondering what had changed so dramatically - was it my hair, my skin, had I lost/gained weight etc.
But it's simply a matter of confidence. My friend pointed out to me that I've been walking around with a scowl on my face and my body language has been very tense and defensive. In short, my low confidence (and neediness) is making itself physically obvious and is giving off unattractive vibes.
So clearly it's a viscious cycle that becomes a downwards spiral. You feel low, you get less attention and you feel worse. But this works in reverse too and I believe success with women can be greatly improved if you can just get into a positive confidence cycle.
