"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Confess my feelings, not exactly sure now

ReZin

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Sorry bro, but you ruined it with the "I love you". The fact is you came off way to strong, and she didn't like it at all. You have to make yourself the catch, don't go chasing after her. If you want an example of this take a girl out that you have no attraction to whatsoever, and keep note in your head of your actions and conversations you have with the girl you take out. Now apply that same thing to the girl you actually WANT, and there you go.

It works wonders and never fails for me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Creative

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I know exactly why I mess up. When I was mysterious and elusive, she was around me a lot. I wasn't calling her much, and when I did it was on my terms. She would make excuses to see me. Every time she came over I would just make out with her. I would encounter some resistance from her because she would keep moving my hand away, except one time when she had no resistance at all. I got to comfortable around her and let my guard down, that was when she started backing away from me, she started seeing me less and less. She stop making out with me and letting me touch her. She knew my routine, knew a lot about me and I guess I was no longer mysterious. I was afraid to lose her. It made me chase her because I was confused by her actions. I wasn't sure why I lost attraction. I thought maybe she found someone else or she was playing mind games on me. I know she was very attracted to me once and like me a lot. I guess I wanted to know exactly how she felt so I confess my feelings because I didn't want to regret it. It seem like it was all a big game. I learn a lot from this experience, my emotions are messed up right now. I'm going to a party tonight, hopefully I find a girl to hook up with and try to forget this other girl.
 

Lord Shinra

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Yeah bro,
Like everyone else has repeated ad nauseum, you're toast. But take it as a learning experience, although you can't salvage this, you can see her green with envy when some other girl is giving it to you in the street, and then really green when you two "go home to watch movies".

If you want an example of this take a girl out that you have no attraction to whatsoever, and keep note in your head of your actions and conversations you have with the girl you take out. Now apply that same thing to the girl you actually WANT, and there you go.

It works wonders and never fails for me.
Thank you. I will be trying that now.
 
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i've gotten the "not ready for a relationship.....lets be friends" garbage recently but she is recently divorced.. is that different or worth still pursuing?
 

KontrollerX

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My Name is Nobody said:
i've gotten the "not ready for a relationship.....lets be friends" garbage recently but she is recently divorced.. is that different or worth still pursuing?
Not any different if you've previously been intimate with her bro.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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