"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Conditioning bitches
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Everybody has their opinion. How did you arrive at this hypothesis and what’s the meaning of life then?
RichardTheFrog
Banned
Literally, to reproduce.
As is the purpose of a bacteria's life.
Because I know about science and evolution. Do chimpanzees have an afterlife? What about lizards or fungi? We share most of our DNA with even very distant species.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Links to any without a shadow of doubt factual evidence disproving the afterlife?
RichardTheFrog
Banned
Science books. Piece it together yourself.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Okay, thanks Rich
Spot on. That's why he's getting clowned.
Think of anybody you may consider "alpha" outside of yourself, of course
do you think they would really carry on like this creep?No man who is secure in his confident masculinity goes around acting like that.
I want the guy to heal though. He's what @tennacity used to call a cartoon alpha
It's very possible. I don't agree.
Yeah that's pretty much were he's getting clowned. Well, delivery? or trying to insult the audience? I always ask myself when someone is delivering a message (especially online)
.....How would this come across if he and I were sat there sharing a glass of Laphroaig 18 year and chatting away?
Now, if he would present the message in the same way face to face, I may have to step back and go ....."wow quite a guy" or I may
just shovel a glass into his face and follow it up with an elbow to the jaw....that mean I'm an internet "hard guy"?
No, that means I'm a male who probably wouldn't listen to that ****e face to face (which doesn't make me special, any of you living in the real world knows that......the fellas gonna react.)
Inconclusion, anyone speaking that way on the internet....usually is full of fvcking ****e
Amen.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I learned.
Ha, it's the only way they can start learning short of multiple near death experiences .
And if you treat them like gold their guaranteed to treat you like garbage .