Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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concocted an idea to take it slower, it backfired

pete101

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a girl im seeing who said i was moving too fast, told me this story about her male friend who she has a bet with that she'll give him $100 if she sees him with a latin girl by the end of the year and vice versa if hes not. anyway, i played on this bet when i saw her today that i'd give her $100 if i tried anything from kiss closing and above, she seemed too excited by this bet that it made me realised it was a stupid idea cos she behaves like a girl who has low IL/is seeing someone or has a bf.

she won't let me kiss close her, when we parted ways today she was moving away from me afraid i was trying to kiss her again, this makes me feel bad cos its like im getting rejected and friendzoned. i told her the bets off cos it was a stupid idea, i was just trying to show her i was patient and willing to wait till she was ready.

is she just trying or friendzoning me and this bet works in her favor cos now i wont attempt to touch her? (even tho she will attempt to tempt me into trying to kiss her)

i feel like im getting played. today wasnt a date, she was just chilling in a cafe using the internet so i came down by her to sit and talk with her, i should have left before she did, i knew it was a mistake when she said she was leaving i left too. i have this in my mind that she was going off to get fvcked and im a pu$$yhole who's offered her a situation where i wont touch her which seems like what she wants (she suggested no touching or hugging is allowed) i was like 'fvck no'

i even got too ****y saying like 'i know on some level u want to kiss me..' shes like 'oh really??' which makes me think she doesnt.. and also 'i know deep down you're attracted to me..' and shes like 'really.. am i?' are these typical responses you're likely to get from a girl or she's likely to do the opposite just to prove me wrong? i.e. not like me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wait WHAT? You bet with a girl that you and her are kissing before the end of the year for $100? Dude, what the hell? Are you retarded or what? Obviously she isn't going to let you kiss her, because it'll get her 100 bucks.

You showed her with your actions that you're going AFC. A real man speaks with actions, not words. And by telling this to her, you basically just displayed MAJOR interest in her, and all she now have to do is exploit that. Going all 'I know you want to kiss me / like me' on a girl after you bet with HER that you will kiss HER before the end of the year just confirms your interest in her.

Those 2 lines might work on a girl that is showing interest, but she just managed to reverse the roles on you.

Also a pro-tip when writing on the forums: Please use capitals(pressing the SHIFT key isn't that difficult) and write proper English too please. Drop the whole 'u' thing, it's annoying to read.
 

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pete101 said:
a girl im seeing who said i was moving too fast, told me this story about her male friend who she has a bet with that she'll give him $100 if she sees him with a latin girl by the end of the year and vice versa if hes not. anyway, i played on this bet when i saw her today that i'd give her $100 if i tried anything from kiss closing and above, she seemed too excited by this bet that it made me realised it was a stupid idea cos she behaves like a girl who has low IL/is seeing someone or has a bf.

she won't let me kiss close her, when we parted ways today she was moving away from me afraid i was trying to kiss her again, this makes me feel bad cos its like im getting rejected and friendzoned. i told her the bets off cos it was a stupid idea, i was just trying to show her i was patient and willing to wait till she was ready.

is she just trying or friendzoning me and this bet works in her favor cos now i wont attempt to touch her? (even tho she will attempt to tempt me into trying to kiss her)

i feel like im getting played. today wasnt a date, she was just chilling in a cafe using the internet so i came down by her to sit and talk with her, i should have left before she did, i knew it was a mistake when she said she was leaving i left too. i have this in my mind that she was going off to get fvcked and im a pu$$yhole who's offered her a situation where i wont touch her which seems like what she wants (she suggested no touching or hugging is allowed) i was like 'fvck no'

i even got too ****y saying like 'i know on some level u want to kiss me..' shes like 'oh really??' which makes me think she doesnt.. and also 'i know deep down you're attracted to me..' and shes like 'really.. am i?' are these typical responses you're likely to get from a girl or she's likely to do the opposite just to prove me wrong? i.e. not like me.
Oh gawd, you are not even in the FZ. She is telling you sixteen ways to go away. Take a hint, son and open your eyes to the obvious..
 

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SandHawk said:
Wait WHAT? You bet with a girl that you and her are kissing before the end of the year for $100? Dude, what the hell? Are you retarded or what? Obviously she isn't going to let you kiss her, because it'll get her 100 bucks.

You showed her with your actions that you're going AFC. A real man speaks with actions, not words. And by telling this to her, you basically just displayed MAJOR interest in her, and all she now have to do is exploit that. Going all 'I know you want to kiss me / like me' on a girl after you bet with HER that you will kiss HER before the end of the year just confirms your interest in her.

Those 2 lines might work on a girl that is showing interest, but she just managed to reverse the roles on you.

Also a pro-tip when writing on the forums: Please use capitals(pressing the SHIFT key isn't that difficult) and write proper English too please. Drop the whole 'u' thing, it's annoying to read.
no u dont get it.. because she said i was moving too fast and she thinks im not interested in her and only after 1 thing i came up with this idea that IF i try to kiss her or more i'll give her $100, it was a stupid idea for me to demonstrate i was interested in her cos i attempted a kiss close at the end of our last date and it wasn't the right time and i hadn't built rapport.

she already knows my interest in her, i may already be in the friendzone.. she may be only seeing me 1 on 1 next time cos she likes the attention and good feeling she gets, but if i run enough game on her i should be able to reignite her attraction for me that has dwindled.

to me shes giving me 2nd chances to do it tho she may just like the attention, its better than her telling me no and cancelling on me not giving me the opportunity to snare her.

i rather she gave me the opportunity than didn't. it's just down to me to charm her, but i have no idea how to be now all this has passed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Read the bible man it seems like you need a lot of work on reading a girls actions, IOI's, etc.
 
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