Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Complimenting Observation

zekko

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I've recently realized that most of the time when I hear someone complimenting a person of the opposite gender's looks, usually it is a female telling a male "you are good looking", "you are handsome", or you are cute. As opposed to a male telling the female she is good looking, as you might expect.

Of course, this may have something to do with the age of the people I'm around. A lot of them are older, and although I do know a lot of younger people as well, I don't go to clubs or bars where they might be more focused on working their game.

Maybe this is due to the female's superior flirting skills. Or maybe it's because "game" has become more mainstream and there's a belief going around (true or not) that you should insult (well, neg or tease) a girl instead of compliment her.

I see guys compliment girls, but they seem to do it in a more evasive and suggestive manner, like "yeah shake that butt at me, I like it".

I'm curious if this observation matches what other guys here are seeing or not. Maybe the reason I'm seeing this is because a good percentage of the women where I live have to be among the ugliest on the planet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko said:
I've recently realized that most of the time when I hear someone complimenting a person of the opposite gender's looks, usually it is a female telling a male "you are good looking", "you are handsome", or you are cute. As opposed to a male telling the female she is good looking, as you might expect.

Of course, this may have something to do with the age of the people I'm around. A lot of them are older, and although I do know a lot of younger people as well, I don't go to clubs or bars where they might be more focused on working their game.

Maybe this is due to the female's superior flirting skills. Or maybe it's because "game" has become more mainstream and there's a belief going around (true or not) that you should insult (well, neg or tease) a girl instead of compliment her.

I see guys compliment girls, but they seem to do it in a more evasive and suggestive manner, like "yeah shake that butt at me, I like it".

I'm curious if this observation matches what other guys here are seeing or not. Maybe the reason I'm seeing this is because a good percentage of the women where I live have to be among the ugliest on the planet.
Definitely doesn't match what I've been seeing, and would agree with your last sentence.
 

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Well, uglier women have to be more aggressive than the attractive ones. Whereas a guy has to pursue the woman, all she has to do is make herself available. Saying that a guy is good looking is about as clear an IOI as she can give.

Among the people that I hang out with, I see a decent number of guys complimenting women on their looks.
 

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I always try to compliment them on their personalities. At least as much as looks. Usually more.

I actually think guys compliment girls on their looks all the time. Maybe they are more subtle about it where you are but I bet they're doing it. By not talking about their looks at first I mess with their minds. I don't say anything about their face, body, hair, eyes until I'm trying to seduce.
 

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I always compliment women on their looks while I'm taking their clothes off.

Maybe this is due to the female's superior flirting skills. Or maybe it's because "game" has become more mainstream and there's a belief going around (true or not) that you should insult (well, neg or tease) a girl instead of compliment her.
Nah it's because feminists have made it not kosher to compliment a woman on her looks in public. It's all about the inside that counts, you see. Guys are being taught this (sometimes the hard way involving the law and/or getting fired from work) everyday at school and at work. Even at social events, they may get reported to the organisers as "creepy guys".
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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