"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Complimenting Observation

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I've recently realized that most of the time when I hear someone complimenting a person of the opposite gender's looks, usually it is a female telling a male "you are good looking", "you are handsome", or you are cute. As opposed to a male telling the female she is good looking, as you might expect.

Of course, this may have something to do with the age of the people I'm around. A lot of them are older, and although I do know a lot of younger people as well, I don't go to clubs or bars where they might be more focused on working their game.

Maybe this is due to the female's superior flirting skills. Or maybe it's because "game" has become more mainstream and there's a belief going around (true or not) that you should insult (well, neg or tease) a girl instead of compliment her.

I see guys compliment girls, but they seem to do it in a more evasive and suggestive manner, like "yeah shake that butt at me, I like it".

I'm curious if this observation matches what other guys here are seeing or not. Maybe the reason I'm seeing this is because a good percentage of the women where I live have to be among the ugliest on the planet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko said:
I've recently realized that most of the time when I hear someone complimenting a person of the opposite gender's looks, usually it is a female telling a male "you are good looking", "you are handsome", or you are cute. As opposed to a male telling the female she is good looking, as you might expect.

Of course, this may have something to do with the age of the people I'm around. A lot of them are older, and although I do know a lot of younger people as well, I don't go to clubs or bars where they might be more focused on working their game.

Maybe this is due to the female's superior flirting skills. Or maybe it's because "game" has become more mainstream and there's a belief going around (true or not) that you should insult (well, neg or tease) a girl instead of compliment her.

I see guys compliment girls, but they seem to do it in a more evasive and suggestive manner, like "yeah shake that butt at me, I like it".

I'm curious if this observation matches what other guys here are seeing or not. Maybe the reason I'm seeing this is because a good percentage of the women where I live have to be among the ugliest on the planet.
Definitely doesn't match what I've been seeing, and would agree with your last sentence.
 

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Well, uglier women have to be more aggressive than the attractive ones. Whereas a guy has to pursue the woman, all she has to do is make herself available. Saying that a guy is good looking is about as clear an IOI as she can give.

Among the people that I hang out with, I see a decent number of guys complimenting women on their looks.
 

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I always try to compliment them on their personalities. At least as much as looks. Usually more.

I actually think guys compliment girls on their looks all the time. Maybe they are more subtle about it where you are but I bet they're doing it. By not talking about their looks at first I mess with their minds. I don't say anything about their face, body, hair, eyes until I'm trying to seduce.
 

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I always compliment women on their looks while I'm taking their clothes off.

Maybe this is due to the female's superior flirting skills. Or maybe it's because "game" has become more mainstream and there's a belief going around (true or not) that you should insult (well, neg or tease) a girl instead of compliment her.
Nah it's because feminists have made it not kosher to compliment a woman on her looks in public. It's all about the inside that counts, you see. Guys are being taught this (sometimes the hard way involving the law and/or getting fired from work) everyday at school and at work. Even at social events, they may get reported to the organisers as "creepy guys".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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