"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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complete silence. what to do?

the_azn_fu

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okay, so your going out with this girl. You know her so you can't really talk about "what her name" is and "where shes from". What are some good conversation topics to talk about or just kind of "cute" things to do, like push each other while walking? thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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supajsilver2

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1. Go to DJ forum home.
2. Scroll to the bottom.
3. Click 'Don Juan Bible.'
4. Scroll down a little.
5. Click 'Conversation.'
6. READ MUTHAFVCKA READ
:)

_J_
 

dankane

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here man

so what kind of music are you into?
oh yea im into that kind of music to but i like this kind better because
have you ever been to a concert

what kind of movies are you into
i like this kind of movie because, why do you like that kind of movie

what are you going to major in
what is a hobby of yours
why do you like that hobby
i like this hobby because elaborate

joke laugh be yourself
be confident
protect
don't think about what to say, just say it
don't question yourself and think she doesnt want to hear
just do it, it doesn't matter be a conversationalist, because your mind in its purest form is that anyways
 

cubed

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While I do agree with the suggestions dankane has, I would never use those lines in their original form. Always stay away from canned lines!

The best advice I can give you is to relax and let the conversation take over. Once you hit a certain comfort level with someone, you won't have to worry about the dreaded pause because the conversation will take a life of its own. However, to get there you need to break the ice (break down all the 'walls' that uncomfortable people have). I have a feeling that this is what you need to do. Unfortunately, this is where lots of DJs-in-training have trouble (myself included).

Anyways, the best conversational advice anyone can give you is to ask lots of questions. This goes for everybody you meet.

Consider yourself lucky if you can get a date with a girl who you can barely talk to!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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American_Psycho

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cubed said:
Anyways, the best conversational advice anyone can give you is to ask lots of questions. This goes for everybody you meet.
Don't go overboard with this. You want to have a fun conversation, not an interview. Try to talk about each subject as much as possible instead of shooting questions out rapid-fire.

Anoither method is to make comments about the environment, tell the girl something funny that happened to you recently, try to get her laughing and interested. Then she will start asking questions about you, which displays more interest on her part.
 

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the_azn_fu said:
okay, so your going out with this girl. You know her so you can't really talk about "what her name" is and "where shes from". What are some good conversation topics to talk about or just kind of "cute" things to do, like push each other while walking? thanks!
How do I get THIS SPECIFIC girl WITHOUT reading the DJ Bible: Useless Thread #6
 

Doggystyle

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ahhhhhh! so many threads asking this same question!
Do a search for conversation or rapport!
 

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Actions Speak louder than words, you need to stop trying and just start talking, it diesnt really matter what you say aslong its not just a pile of ****, if your just sittin there in an akward silence, is the chick really worth it?
 
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