"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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complete silence. what to do?

the_azn_fu

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okay, so your going out with this girl. You know her so you can't really talk about "what her name" is and "where shes from". What are some good conversation topics to talk about or just kind of "cute" things to do, like push each other while walking? thanks!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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1. Go to DJ forum home.
2. Scroll to the bottom.
3. Click 'Don Juan Bible.'
4. Scroll down a little.
5. Click 'Conversation.'
6. READ MUTHAFVCKA READ
:)

_J_
 

dankane

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here man

so what kind of music are you into?
oh yea im into that kind of music to but i like this kind better because
have you ever been to a concert

what kind of movies are you into
i like this kind of movie because, why do you like that kind of movie

what are you going to major in
what is a hobby of yours
why do you like that hobby
i like this hobby because elaborate

joke laugh be yourself
be confident
protect
don't think about what to say, just say it
don't question yourself and think she doesnt want to hear
just do it, it doesn't matter be a conversationalist, because your mind in its purest form is that anyways
 

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While I do agree with the suggestions dankane has, I would never use those lines in their original form. Always stay away from canned lines!

The best advice I can give you is to relax and let the conversation take over. Once you hit a certain comfort level with someone, you won't have to worry about the dreaded pause because the conversation will take a life of its own. However, to get there you need to break the ice (break down all the 'walls' that uncomfortable people have). I have a feeling that this is what you need to do. Unfortunately, this is where lots of DJs-in-training have trouble (myself included).

Anyways, the best conversational advice anyone can give you is to ask lots of questions. This goes for everybody you meet.

Consider yourself lucky if you can get a date with a girl who you can barely talk to!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cubed said:
Anyways, the best conversational advice anyone can give you is to ask lots of questions. This goes for everybody you meet.
Don't go overboard with this. You want to have a fun conversation, not an interview. Try to talk about each subject as much as possible instead of shooting questions out rapid-fire.

Anoither method is to make comments about the environment, tell the girl something funny that happened to you recently, try to get her laughing and interested. Then she will start asking questions about you, which displays more interest on her part.
 

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the_azn_fu said:
okay, so your going out with this girl. You know her so you can't really talk about "what her name" is and "where shes from". What are some good conversation topics to talk about or just kind of "cute" things to do, like push each other while walking? thanks!
How do I get THIS SPECIFIC girl WITHOUT reading the DJ Bible: Useless Thread #6
 

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ahhhhhh! so many threads asking this same question!
Do a search for conversation or rapport!
 

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Actions Speak louder than words, you need to stop trying and just start talking, it diesnt really matter what you say aslong its not just a pile of ****, if your just sittin there in an akward silence, is the chick really worth it?
 
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