Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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complete silence. what to do?

the_azn_fu

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okay, so your going out with this girl. You know her so you can't really talk about "what her name" is and "where shes from". What are some good conversation topics to talk about or just kind of "cute" things to do, like push each other while walking? thanks!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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GloriouslyInsane

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Comment her shoes/hair/clothes/whatever seems like a bit unique or out of ordinary,or if it is TOO ordinary (neg,c+f).Sometimes there are alot of stories behind items,especially jewellery and accessories.
 

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read juggler, the best for convo skills
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Alright, I see this type of post all over the forum and I have to ask you guys why having a simple conversation so hard for you guys? Is it difficult talking to anyone or just women? If it's just women, what makes them different than men? Also, where the hell do you find woman to don't do much talking themselves? Are they just that dull too or are they not into you in the first place? I just don't understand the problem.
 

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If there's nothing to say, leave. Go home and enjoy some cognac and a cigar.
Don't put yourself in awkward situations. If it's going that way, go do something else that you enjoy that isn't awkward. Women are the ones who want to make you feel awkward. Don't give into it, go enjoy yourself. You don't deserve to feel anything but the joy of life in it's finest glory.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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rocky_mtn

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I suggest reading "How to Talk To Anyone" by Leil Lowndes.

- pick a visual queue and talk about it
ex: umbrella in her drink jokingly say "its feels like we should be on a beach, whats the best beach (vacation) you've been to?"
ex: you're at a Chineese restaurant (or whatever) "wow this is authentic, it feels like we really are in Shanghai"

- ask her a trivial personal question about herself
ex: do you have any pets? Then ask what kind/breed, whats the pets names, what the funniest/most annoying thing they do?
do you have any bothers/sisters, are they older younger, single or married? Talk about her sibling for a while .

This will get you bonus points when you are interested in things in her life that she considers to be important.

- If she mentions something, repeat what she said to elaborate on it
ex: She says, "it was nice out today, I went out for a bike ride" You: "so you're into biking, mountain biking or road cycling? What is your favorite route to ride"



People are social beings, women love to talk and will talk non-stop if given the chance.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Alright, I see this type of post all over the forum and I have to ask you guys why having a simple conversation so hard for you guys? Is it difficult talking to anyone or just women? If it's just women, what makes them different than men? Also, where the hell do you find woman to don't do much talking themselves?

AMEN!!!!!
 
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