"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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complete silence. what to do?

the_azn_fu

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okay, so your going out with this girl. You know her so you can't really talk about "what her name" is and "where shes from". What are some good conversation topics to talk about or just kind of "cute" things to do, like push each other while walking? thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GloriouslyInsane

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Comment her shoes/hair/clothes/whatever seems like a bit unique or out of ordinary,or if it is TOO ordinary (neg,c+f).Sometimes there are alot of stories behind items,especially jewellery and accessories.
 

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read juggler, the best for convo skills
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Alright, I see this type of post all over the forum and I have to ask you guys why having a simple conversation so hard for you guys? Is it difficult talking to anyone or just women? If it's just women, what makes them different than men? Also, where the hell do you find woman to don't do much talking themselves? Are they just that dull too or are they not into you in the first place? I just don't understand the problem.
 

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If there's nothing to say, leave. Go home and enjoy some cognac and a cigar.
Don't put yourself in awkward situations. If it's going that way, go do something else that you enjoy that isn't awkward. Women are the ones who want to make you feel awkward. Don't give into it, go enjoy yourself. You don't deserve to feel anything but the joy of life in it's finest glory.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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rocky_mtn

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I suggest reading "How to Talk To Anyone" by Leil Lowndes.

- pick a visual queue and talk about it
ex: umbrella in her drink jokingly say "its feels like we should be on a beach, whats the best beach (vacation) you've been to?"
ex: you're at a Chineese restaurant (or whatever) "wow this is authentic, it feels like we really are in Shanghai"

- ask her a trivial personal question about herself
ex: do you have any pets? Then ask what kind/breed, whats the pets names, what the funniest/most annoying thing they do?
do you have any bothers/sisters, are they older younger, single or married? Talk about her sibling for a while .

This will get you bonus points when you are interested in things in her life that she considers to be important.

- If she mentions something, repeat what she said to elaborate on it
ex: She says, "it was nice out today, I went out for a bike ride" You: "so you're into biking, mountain biking or road cycling? What is your favorite route to ride"



People are social beings, women love to talk and will talk non-stop if given the chance.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Alright, I see this type of post all over the forum and I have to ask you guys why having a simple conversation so hard for you guys? Is it difficult talking to anyone or just women? If it's just women, what makes them different than men? Also, where the hell do you find woman to don't do much talking themselves?

AMEN!!!!!
 
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