Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Oxide

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The way i see it, when a girl meets a guy she runs a little check list in her mind.. it goes something like this:

Oh, he is tall, good..check
I see a very athletic body, nice..check
His smile is perfect.. check
He had clear skin... check.. and so on.

So when a girl is finally done checking off the stuff she cares about, she forms a perception of you.. and decides (rather quickly) whethever you two will fukk. This range isnt just "yes/no" however. A lot of guys fall into "I am not sure yet. I have to find out more about him" territory, this is where YOU are the one who makes it or breaks it.

When looking at yoursel consider what things you lack in, and try to make the great parts stand out. Say, you are short..start lifting/grooming/dressing better to make for it. However, most of the things that you lack in can and shall be fixed. Im wearing braces right now..why? I love smiling, and girls love it too.

So stop asking "is lifting essential to my game?" .. "does my height count when meeting a girl? or "Will she like me if i am overweight?" Start focusing on the whole thing, slowly making every part of it better. This is exactly how you raise the standards..this is how you get better looking women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SeldomSeen

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RE:

Ive always managed to beat those checklist. My current GF is 14 years younger than me (she liked guys around 5 years older) check: 2 inches taller than me (she liked guys taller than her) check: she liked em muscular (Im a big thin but athletic) check: she liked a bit of a bad boy (I consider myself a smooth entertainer) check:

1 year later we're still together and she's asking me marriage questions....LOL!!! If you cant beat em, change their mind!

Peace
seldomseen man of mystery
 

BLUEox117

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i dont think so, the only way to fix my messed up teeth is to cut my jawbone, no thanks, im not gonna cut my jawbone so i can get a few extra women, hahaha.

bad advice, totally superficial, totally logical.

not confident.

changing yourself is wussiness.
 

Oxide

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changing yourself is wussiness.
Wow.. that is amazing. Alright man whatever floats your boat, but i like becoming a healthier/stronger/smarter/more attractive guy.
 

Jariel

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I agree with Oxide here. You should always be making the most of what you have.

The world's most attractive people could just as easily be ugly if they took a complacent attitude towards themselves.

There are a lot of guys who live by the saying: "Accept me for what I am or don't accept me at all". These guys are usually very lonely because most people would rather not accept them at all.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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