"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wow, what a mind - blowing post!:D .

Something I like to add in the Intelectual Improvment section. Instead of reading a book, you could read the paper. Depends which you prefer.
Now there's loads of papers out there for different levels of abilities. If you are intelligent enough, you would be reading a broadsheet newspaper like the Daily Telegraph, The Times or Finanical Times (UK version). Washington Post or New York Times. (USA Version). It's nice to keep update with everything happening in the World and it gives a good impression of yourself. Yes, I read the Telegraph and sometimes the Finanical Times but not only the impression, it does your English good. You could strike up a conversation with a girl from something intresting you have read. Don't talk politcal or anything like that.

Now I would avoid newspapers that invovle Porn (big turn off), swearing or any kind of silly Celebrity gossip. No need to name them. (Not offensive if you read any those). Remember I am talking in public areas not home!.

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make sure they not all self destructive habits.


Sorry I can't help that!. Broken thumb and a cracked collerbone at the moment. While racing, it went a bit wrong clearing a 30ft step - up road jump on a MTB bike.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nice work////
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Then guys, be good dj's and search for them using the SEARCH function...

Haha I love being new and bossing older people around. :D

Btw, Great Post Dude! :)
 

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I posted this a while ago when the forum had a different adress so that's why you couldn't get through.

However, i just fixed all the links, have fun.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bump
 

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For improving your intellect you spelled it wrong lol:p
I was looking for this post by the way.

Good job man.
 

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this should be in the bible... im going to hang this on the mirror
 

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i was getting off track and reverting back to my old ways untill i read this. this is possibly the best wake up call ive ever had. thanks sammo

oh ya BUMP
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was going to bump it, but it was in a sticky so I resisted. I wish Sammo still posted, but reading his posts have convinced me to not worry about girls so much. Just going to try improve myself first, and let them come to me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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