"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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complete garbage at conversating.

Jair213

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so when you meet a chick on a date! its ussually is the get to know each other phase?

but how do you not reveal to much of your self and keep the conversation flowing? i freaken suc at topics too. Then I start getting all nervous if i feel like im running out of things to talk about. talk about an anxiety atack lol. :woo:

then when you see each other the second time third time how do you not keep your selfs from talking about the same things? geez
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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keep in the moment, keep her doing most of the talking. this is also hard for me since im naturally a guy of few words.
 

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Do interesting things and talk about them.
"I just went on a really cool trip! The town was ____. I did ___. The food was pretty ____."
"Have you ever traveled? Where would you like to go? What would you like to do in a different town? Do you like exotic food? What type?"

"I like to go fencing! It's a really cool sport. It's a good hobby and it keeps me in shape. What about you? What sports do you do for fun? Do you like to work out? What sports would you rather watch on TV? Have you ever seen a fencing match? No, it's not dangerous, we have protective gear."

Etc. It's not hard if you have a life and actually do things. If all you do is work and go to bars, then yeah, it's pretty easy to run out of conversational topics.

If you have social anxiety and just a hard time keeping a conversation going, read a self-help book about talking to people and building charisma. That's a skill that will take you far in life, not just with women.
 

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pinkfl said:
Do interesting things and talk about them.
"I just went on a really cool trip! The town was ____. I did ___. The food was pretty ____."
"Have you ever traveled? Where would you like to go? What would you like to do in a different town? Do you like exotic food? What type?"

"I like to go fencing! It's a really cool sport. It's a good hobby and it keeps me in shape. What about you? What sports do you do for fun? Do you like to work out? What sports would you rather watch on TV? Have you ever seen a fencing match? No, it's not dangerous, we have protective gear."

Etc. It's not hard if you have a life and actually do things. If all you do is work and go to bars, then yeah, it's pretty easy to run out of conversational topics.

If you have social anxiety and just a hard time keeping a conversation going, read a self-help book about talking to people and building charisma. That's a skill that will take you far in life, not just with women.
Yeah there's alot of advice out there about having good conversations but there's only so much you can talk about if you have a boring life. Always be learning about and doing new things and you'll have a library of topics to discuss. Also don't force it. If you absolutely can't think of anything to say just sit there and let her fill the silence.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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