"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
well i just got a # over aim from a girl on myspace
i was like hey
then she was was like hey whos this
and im like my name, carry on some cnf and make some jokes
then told her i gtg in a min and ask her number before i leave
she gave it to me
and shes pretty hot too
thats my 1st number attempt over myspace..
i was like hey
then she was was like hey whos this
and im like my name, carry on some cnf and make some jokes
then told her i gtg in a min and ask her number before i leave
she gave it to me
and shes pretty hot too
thats my 1st number attempt over myspace..
Yes, you're right on McTWist. I just had my high school orientation and I've noticed because the new way I present myself I'm a lot more popular now. I was macking on one chick the most and she was really receptive. Kino. Kino. Kino.
I start school next week so I'll be writing in here, hope you guys will as well. I know I'm not here as much as I used to but thats for a good reason.
Rock on guys.
I start school next week so I'll be writing in here, hope you guys will as well. I know I'm not here as much as I used to but thats for a good reason.
Rock on guys.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
back again lads, been super busy this weekend, since i've just moved to Toronto from my small town its been hectic, but i've got a great pickup from the other night.
So Friday night, I'm hanging with a couple of buds, working on the cars and whatnot. Take a trip to see the new cottage, then we went to mcdonalds. Saw a couple of old friends there from last year, guys that i've been meaning to get together with all summer and it never worked out. Anyways, the one guys sister is there (an 8) who I know from school, and her friend, a knockout 9, who I of course decided was in need of the pleasure of my company.
So we got food and such while i caught up with my friends and made fun of / kinoed the sister tons, just the good ole pre school tickling and throwing straws at her, all the while playing the "ignore the babe" card. Which of course works like a charm. Anyways, I found out that HB9 was staying the weekend at my friend and his sisters place, and that they were having a party tommorow (saturday) night, which I have to go to else they kick my ass for not hanging out with them all summer. So whats a poor boy to do?
So of course, i arrive the next night around 10, hung out around a fire for a bit, tossed a couple beers back, all the while receiving not so subtle hints from all the girls that HB9 thought I was gorgeous, but of course I could care less, so i play around, have fun with my boys and such, continue flirting it up with the other girls. Decided to go for a walk to town to buy a drink, HB9 of course is really thirsty, so she wants to come with. so we walked and i talked to her, huge signs of interest. came back, had a smoke on the front lawn. Now recently i was at a greenday concert, at which some misguided individual threw one of my shoes onstage, so i now wear shoes that dont match. Anyways Hb points this out and proceeds to take one of my shoes after i tell the story, which of course leads to me trying to get it back, which of course leads to a brief makeout session. we go into the house, go up to one of the rooms and start making out again, but she says we should probably go back and make an appearence, so that they dont send out a search party. I was a little frustrated but i figured hey, the night is still young (it was only 12)
so ya, basically hung out, made out several more times that night and the next morning, and then i left for home to move the rest of my stuff, but from what i hear she's been asking about me nonestop since i left, so I figure round two will be coming shortly she's really cool possibly relationship material, wouldn't that be a change eh??
keep having fun lads
-Nate
So Friday night, I'm hanging with a couple of buds, working on the cars and whatnot. Take a trip to see the new cottage, then we went to mcdonalds. Saw a couple of old friends there from last year, guys that i've been meaning to get together with all summer and it never worked out. Anyways, the one guys sister is there (an 8) who I know from school, and her friend, a knockout 9, who I of course decided was in need of the pleasure of my company.
So we got food and such while i caught up with my friends and made fun of / kinoed the sister tons, just the good ole pre school tickling and throwing straws at her, all the while playing the "ignore the babe" card. Which of course works like a charm. Anyways, I found out that HB9 was staying the weekend at my friend and his sisters place, and that they were having a party tommorow (saturday) night, which I have to go to else they kick my ass for not hanging out with them all summer. So whats a poor boy to do?
So of course, i arrive the next night around 10, hung out around a fire for a bit, tossed a couple beers back, all the while receiving not so subtle hints from all the girls that HB9 thought I was gorgeous, but of course I could care less
, so i play around, have fun with my boys and such, continue flirting it up with the other girls. Decided to go for a walk to town to buy a drink, HB9 of course is really thirsty, so she wants to come with. so we walked and i talked to her, huge signs of interest. came back, had a smoke on the front lawn. Now recently i was at a greenday concert, at which some misguided individual threw one of my shoes onstage, so i now wear shoes that dont match. Anyways Hb points this out and proceeds to take one of my shoes after i tell the story, which of course leads to me trying to get it back, which of course leads to a brief makeout session. we go into the house, go up to one of the rooms and start making out again, but she says we should probably go back and make an appearence, so that they dont send out a search party. I was a little frustrated but i figured hey, the night is still young (it was only 12)so ya, basically hung out, made out several more times that night and the next morning, and then i left for home to move the rest of my stuff, but from what i hear she's been asking about me nonestop since i left, so I figure round two will be coming shortly
she's really cool possibly relationship material, wouldn't that be a change eh??keep having fun lads
-Nate
horserotorvator
Don Juan
I got back from a trip from Ecuador (which is a post in itself but I'm just checking in to report on my first day of school. I'm going to a new school this year (I'm a junior) so this is a big challenge/opportunity. Today was the first day, I talked to a lot of people but I was choking on the HB approaches. **** that. Tomorrow I'm approaching at least 10 girls with the intent of a # close (or better so I'll have a bigass post tomorrow.
but I'm just checking in to report on my first day of school. I'm going to a new school this year (I'm a junior) so this is a big challenge/opportunity. Today was the first day, I talked to a lot of people but I was choking on the HB approaches. **** that. Tomorrow I'm approaching at least 10 girls with the intent of a # close (or better so I'll have a bigass post tomorrow."I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
horserotorvator
Don Juan
Hey guys, just got back from a post football game dance. I've got work tomorrow so I'll keep this one short. I had mixed results, some good, some bad, so I'll start with the good. Freshman & sophomore year at my old school I always avoided going to dances (I was an AFC loser) so this is my first dance in a while. I showed up with a couple buddies I met this week, and scoped out the floor. Some girls dancing, a lot of guys just standing around, a few dancing. I got into a set with a few girls (one a 6, the other an 8) w/my friend John, and later started dancing with the 8. I got a good grind going w/both of them (the 8 & 6) and moved on to find some other girls. One girl (another HB8) started shoving her ass in my crotch, so I grinded back, and even slapped her ass (first mistake). She acted all offended (WTF) and broke it off, and ran over to her guy friends for "protection". Later she started some kind of rumour that I was "stalking" her, and this led to some blowoffs from other chicks. Whatever. Shes the one who started the grind, not me. I guess this is one way girls will **** with a man's mindset, and I'm not going to let it bother me. Unfourtunatly I wasn't really feeling the music by then, and my game was coming apart. I really need to work on my dancing skills. I'm taking salsa lessons right now but I need to just practice to some hip hop to get comfortable with it. I ****ed up bad when I creeped some girls out by just going up and grinding with them. I should have gotten some E/C first but oh well, live and learn. I grinded wih some HB 7 :cheer: for a bit, and then split when the dance ended. All in all, I wasn't the superpimp I thought I was gonna be, but I learned some things that will help me n my game.
Earlier today I was on a roll. Got 4 numbers. The first was a HB7 in the library who actually went to school w/me in elementary school. We chatted a bit about a few things, catching up on stuff, and then I just asked for it. Nothing special. The other was an HB7 in English class. Class ended early, so we went out in the halls and I ran some C&F on her, teasing her about a few personality quirks. She ate it up,playfully hitting me a few times, so i knew I was in. The last two were an HB 8 & 9. I have a class w/the 9, so we talked a bit, I ran a little C&F, asked for the number, piece of cake. The 8 is a soccer player, and wanted me to carry her gym bag for her. I said I would as long as she gave me her #, so I got it and carried her bag for a bit before giving it back and leavingto go greet some guy friends and get some stuff taken care of. So I've got some numbers, not the 10 I wanted, but at least its something. I've been talking to a lot of of girls and guys, so I'm sure I'm not coming across as a shy person. I gotta admiit, my dancing skills suck, I'm too stiff and I move awkwardly. I'll work on that. Some old AFC traits came back tonight (I was nervous, felt awkward some times) but I know the only way to get over them is to keep pushing. In my approaches I need to work on being more playful w/kino and C&F. I know I made the above appraoches sound like I was some kind of C&F god but I aint! I had about 5 or 6 approaches that just fizzled out because I sounded like an interviewer. Y'know like this:
"Hi my name is x, I am 17 years old, I have been attending this school for 3 days, I work at x etc. etc." I didn't throw in any C&F just rattling off **** about me I was boring! I can be a real chump sometimes. i just go into this mindset where I feel afraid to take any risks with the girl for some kind of inexplanable reason. Its stupid I know, but its there. Any body else have that problem?
I meant for this to be short, but now its a beast of a post. Sorry to hve such a dissapointing report, but I'll get a better one next time!
Earlier today I was on a roll. Got 4 numbers. The first was a HB7 in the library who actually went to school w/me in elementary school. We chatted a bit about a few things, catching up on stuff, and then I just asked for it. Nothing special. The other was an HB7 in English class. Class ended early, so we went out in the halls and I ran some C&F on her, teasing her about a few personality quirks. She ate it up,playfully hitting me a few times, so i knew I was in. The last two were an HB 8 & 9. I have a class w/the 9, so we talked a bit, I ran a little C&F, asked for the number, piece of cake. The 8 is a soccer player, and wanted me to carry her gym bag for her. I said I would as long as she gave me her #, so I got it and carried her bag for a bit before giving it back and leavingto go greet some guy friends and get some stuff taken care of. So I've got some numbers, not the 10 I wanted, but at least its something. I've been talking to a lot of of girls and guys, so I'm sure I'm not coming across as a shy person. I gotta admiit, my dancing skills suck, I'm too stiff and I move awkwardly. I'll work on that. Some old AFC traits came back tonight (I was nervous, felt awkward some times) but I know the only way to get over them is to keep pushing. In my approaches I need to work on being more playful w/kino and C&F. I know I made the above appraoches sound like I was some kind of C&F god but I aint! I had about 5 or 6 approaches that just fizzled out because I sounded like an interviewer. Y'know like this:
"Hi my name is x, I am 17 years old, I have been attending this school for 3 days, I work at x etc. etc." I didn't throw in any C&F just rattling off **** about me
I was boring! I can be a real chump sometimes. i just go into this mindset where I feel afraid to take any risks with the girl for some kind of inexplanable reason. Its stupid I know, but its there. Any body else have that problem?I meant for this to be short, but now its a beast of a post. Sorry to hve such a dissapointing report, but I'll get a better one next time!
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
lol isn't it amazing how much of a bltch a girl can turn into? Don't worry, this isn't the kind of girl you want to get mixed up with anyways.
Just because I'm curious, did you actually slap her ass or did you do it playfully as a joke?
Had some fun with monopoly money today. I brought a couple grand of it with me to school today. Chatted up with quite a few HB6-8s. I used the monopoly money to "buy" various services from HBs. I got quite a few massages and other things from it, word of my new found richness spread quickly throughout the day and by 5th and 6th hour I had chicks coming up to me with offerings for the monopoly money. Durring 6th hour we went to the computer lab and I had a HB7.5 and a HB8 all over me for most the hour. Pretty good day IMO.
Looking for some opinions on the monopoly money, I'd never pay real money for a back massage or anything for that matter but last night inspiration hit me while going through the monopoly box and I figured I take it for a spin. Chicks seemed to really like the idea of trying to earn "money" from me. Downplaying their value and only giving them like 1 doller for a massage seemed to work good too.
Looking for some opinions on the monopoly money, I'd never pay real money for a back massage or anything for that matter but last night inspiration hit me while going through the monopoly box and I figured I take it for a spin. Chicks seemed to really like the idea of trying to earn "money" from me. Downplaying their value and only giving them like 1 doller for a massage seemed to work good too.
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In theory this sounds like a great idea, but your only 14 so girls might not know what "routines" are and be more niave. Older girls will not fall for this type of stunt, unless you get some sort of rapport before hand. Also by doing this a lot I think a lot of girls will see right through it and know its a stunt.
Also I have a mini field report: Walking down the ave to the book store, I see this HB8, I give here EC until she FIRST looks away. I then approach her and ask her what kind of coffee she is drinking. and it happens to have lots of caffinee so i bust her on being so hyper b/c of the coffee.....Here is the funny part...I ask her for her number she doesnt have paper neither do i so she writes it on her coffee and gives me here whole coffee LOL.
I use my cellphone to take down girls numbers, I'll usually just enter the number , press the talk button and end it before it can make the call. That way I saved the number quickly and can formally add it later.
Me Field Report:
Yesterday I went to a little bon fire type party one of my mates was throwing, out of the 7 girls there (there were 8 guys so it was a pretty even ratio) I got 3 of their numbers, 2 put their numbers in my phone for me and the other 2 weren't attractive enough for me to want their numbers. Made out with one of the girls (about a HB7) back in the woods when we *accidentally* got lost together. Overall a pretty good day, got to refine my use of c/f and kino a little bit and there was some good food.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'd like to tell this stuff that happened to me, but I wasn't sure if I should open a new thread, so here it goes, tell me if it's the right place :
Last friday I had my first class with a certain new teacher, and like 10 minutes into it I notice a hb7, hottest girl in the room, looking at me and smiling, almost laughing... I tought she was just laughing at something the theacher said, or was just being really friendly, so I smiled back... obviously.
Well, there and then I decided to go and talk to her after class. Later I noticed the theacher had prostetic hands, and she kept smiling for all that time, and I thought... damn, this b* is laughing at the poor man, now I'm definately gonna talk to her. Class ends, she is waiting at the door !!! She says... yes, those are prostetic hands, and he has a glass eye too. I was like... yeah, I noticed, small talk for a couple minutes, after all she wasn't poking fun at him, she just taught it was funny for other people... I guess... turns out she had class with him last year and really liked him... asked if I'd like her to bring some of his quizzes... That ended with her: I have this and that and that ( classes ) and me : do you have a name ? ( she was like... huh ? for 1/10 second and then said it smiling.
Today ( monday ) first class ends, she's like... are you coming too ? Yeah, sure, some talk about the teacher we just met etc... then I ask what was there to do in the breaks ( do you call intermissions that ?? ) and she was like... Well, I can introduce you to my friends... yeah, sure
I get there, hand shake a couple guys, a bunch of hb come along, she gets distracted, doesn't introduce anyone else I'm left in the midlle with the guys looking at a maxim mag and acting like they were 10. Crummy... cya later.After another class, as we are leaving for lunch I comment : nice glasses ( reading ) you got there... and she looks at me like : idiot... but says.. yeah, right. I say: no, really. Her: Of course they are ... or maybe not... she looks kinda pissed, too bad. Later we chat a bit more, and I'm just standing there with her friends ( all guys ) watching them talk. I noticed, none of them pays her much attention, but she kino's most of them like hell, not to mention constant smiling during classes.
Last friday I had my first class with a certain new teacher, and like 10 minutes into it I notice a hb7, hottest girl in the room, looking at me and smiling, almost laughing... I tought she was just laughing at something the theacher said, or was just being really friendly, so I smiled back... obviously.
Well, there and then I decided to go and talk to her after class. Later I noticed the theacher had prostetic hands, and she kept smiling for all that time, and I thought... damn, this b* is laughing at the poor man, now I'm definately gonna talk to her. Class ends, she is waiting at the door !!! She says... yes, those are prostetic hands, and he has a glass eye too. I was like... yeah, I noticed, small talk for a couple minutes, after all she wasn't poking fun at him, she just taught it was funny for other people... I guess... turns out she had class with him last year and really liked him... asked if I'd like her to bring some of his quizzes... That ended with her: I have this and that and that ( classes ) and me : do you have a name ? ( she was like... huh ? for 1/10 second and then said it smiling.
Today ( monday ) first class ends, she's like... are you coming too ? Yeah, sure, some talk about the teacher we just met etc... then I ask what was there to do in the breaks ( do you call intermissions that ?? ) and she was like... Well, I can introduce you to my friends... yeah, sure
I get there, hand shake a couple guys, a bunch of hb come along, she gets distracted, doesn't introduce anyone else I'm left in the midlle with the guys looking at a maxim mag and acting like they were 10. Crummy... cya later.After another class, as we are leaving for lunch I comment : nice glasses ( reading ) you got there... and she looks at me like : idiot... but says.. yeah, right. I say: no, really. Her: Of course they are ... or maybe not... she looks kinda pissed, too bad. Later we chat a bit more, and I'm just standing there with her friends ( all guys ) watching them talk. I noticed, none of them pays her much attention, but she kino's most of them like hell, not to mention constant smiling during classes.
SlyD4rK
Don Juan
alright...here is my cureent situation:
my group consists of about a good 15 or more people (guys and girls) I'm good friends with most of the guys and some of the girls. As of right now some of the girls are a little indifferent to me or they think i'm mean/****y w.e
Side Note: They think im mean because i kinda/sorta cheated on a girl in the group, Not really though...i was 'seeing' the girl in the group (girl A) and nothing had really happened yet, but i knew she really liked me. but i had gone out on a date with her once. a lot of holding hands, flirting, and kino...but we didnt kiss (lack of isolation; we went to the mall) anyways....the next week on monday i find out one of my friends from another school is playing @ the coffee shop. So everyone plans to go and stuff...well as it is going around school so people asked me about it and i end up inviting this cute senior (girl that i had knew from the year b4. well, she said she was busy, but she will see what she can do. i end up forgetting about the whole thing untill friday (the show) well girl A doesn't show up but Girl B does (note that EVERYONE from the group saw me with girl so i do the regular kino, flirting, holding hands, other stuff with her not even THINKING about what the group will say( becuase i could care less) she is really diggin it too...so we go back to her car and we kiss....somebody from my group saw us...whoops...anyways, Girl A finds out because our group is like that...and she gets really pissy....i act really indifferent to the whole situation for a while...then i went AFC and explained what happened to girl A.....Whoops...she said that she doesn't know what to say...and she wants some time alone. i was indifferent.
back to recently...girl A and i are on talking terms again and i think she is starting to like me again. well girl B on the other hand is almost EXACTLY where i want her...last week we went to lunch once and did a little making out...(i hella do C&F allthe time) last weekend...friday i didnt do anything, but Saturday a lot of good stuff happened...first off the WHOLE entire group of friends (15+) goes to the coffee house and we hang out for a bit..some people leave after awhile but about 10ish people are still there..we walk to the nearby park and play basketball, chill, limbo, w.e......just having a great time. some more people leave and stuff but we go to the store and buy some crap and supplies for the 'Refuge' Refuge is a get-together of friends who all sit inthe park and listen to acoustic guitar and sing freestlye.(lots of fun). but on the way back from the store..i see Girl B's car parked by a house (was going to invite her to the refuge)...so i go over there and knock....nobody there..o well....well we leave to the refuge. have fun there. blah blah blah. well after that some people came over to my house and we did a little skinny-dipping (w00t!) with some girls from the group and a couple guys (eww) anyways....after that experience everyone left...i get on the computer...and low and behold Girl B is on. So i talk to her for a while, and she says she is bored and wants something to do...well i convince her....wait no....DJs dont convince...she CAME over here because she couldn't keep her bloody hands off of me so she snuck out of her house @ 1 o' clock in the morning and drove over to my house...my mom was home so i just told her to meet me at the local park...well i get over there...(after jumping out of my window, and going through several backyards) well what happened next is up to your imagination... monday rolls along and we skip lunch and come to my house because i told her she owed me a massage after what she made me go through on Sat. she accepts of course...because i am that DAMN SEXY. boy that lunch was fun...well she calls me and during this convo, i insulted her like 54525 times, hung up twice, and she called me back..well eventually she strips over the phone for me...and then i tell her that she is perverted because she is talking on the phone naked...HAHA
and then today...nothing in particular happened, except that Girl B my be in the Homecoming Court....so she smight ask me to be her escort...hmm...that will place me in a postion i dont want to be in. i'm really starting to flirt alot with Girl A again and i think i'm rekindling an old flame..(and just for reference..i like Girl A more than Girl
that's my current social situation, and its alos kinda like a field report...thats why i posted it here
my group consists of about a good 15 or more people (guys and girls) I'm good friends with most of the guys and some of the girls. As of right now some of the girls are a little indifferent to me or they think i'm mean/****y w.e
Side Note: They think im mean because i kinda/sorta cheated on a girl in the group, Not really though...i was 'seeing' the girl in the group (girl A) and nothing had really happened yet, but i knew she really liked me. but i had gone out on a date with her once. a lot of holding hands, flirting, and kino...but we didnt kiss (lack of isolation; we went to the mall) anyways....the next week on monday i find out one of my friends from another school is playing @ the coffee shop. So everyone plans to go and stuff...well as it is going around school so people asked me about it and i end up inviting this cute senior (girl that i had knew from the year b4. well, she said she was busy, but she will see what she can do. i end up forgetting about the whole thing untill friday (the show) well girl A doesn't show up but Girl B does (note that EVERYONE from the group saw me with girl so i do the regular kino, flirting, holding hands, other stuff with her not even THINKING about what the group will say( becuase i could care less) she is really diggin it too...so we go back to her car and we kiss....somebody from my group saw us...whoops...anyways, Girl A finds out because our group is like that...and she gets really pissy....i act really indifferent to the whole situation for a while...then i went AFC and explained what happened to girl A.....Whoops...she said that she doesn't know what to say...and she wants some time alone. i was indifferent.
back to recently...girl A and i are on talking terms again and i think she is starting to like me again. well girl B on the other hand is almost EXACTLY where i want her...last week we went to lunch once and did a little making out...(i hella do C&F allthe time) last weekend...friday i didnt do anything, but Saturday a lot of good stuff happened...first off the WHOLE entire group of friends (15+) goes to the coffee house and we hang out for a bit..some people leave after awhile but about 10ish people are still there..we walk to the nearby park and play basketball, chill, limbo, w.e......just having a great time. some more people leave and stuff but we go to the store and buy some crap and supplies for the 'Refuge' Refuge is a get-together of friends who all sit inthe park and listen to acoustic guitar and sing freestlye.(lots of fun). but on the way back from the store..i see Girl B's car parked by a house (was going to invite her to the refuge)...so i go over there and knock....nobody there..o well....well we leave to the refuge. have fun there. blah blah blah. well after that some people came over to my house and we did a little skinny-dipping (w00t!) with some girls from the group and a couple guys (eww) anyways....after that experience everyone left...i get on the computer...and low and behold Girl B is on. So i talk to her for a while, and she says she is bored and wants something to do...well i convince her....wait no....DJs dont convince...she CAME over here because she couldn't keep her bloody hands off of me so she snuck out of her house @ 1 o' clock in the morning and drove over to my house...my mom was home so i just told her to meet me at the local park...well i get over there...(after jumping out of my window, and going through several backyards) well what happened next is up to your imagination... monday rolls along and we skip lunch and come to my house because i told her she owed me a massage after what she made me go through on Sat. she accepts of course...because i am that DAMN SEXY. boy that lunch was fun...well she calls me and during this convo, i insulted her like 54525 times, hung up twice, and she called me back..well eventually she strips over the phone for me...and then i tell her that she is perverted because she is talking on the phone naked...HAHA
and then today...nothing in particular happened, except that Girl B my be in the Homecoming Court....so she smight ask me to be her escort...hmm...that will place me in a postion i dont want to be in. i'm really starting to flirt alot with Girl A again and i think i'm rekindling an old flame..(and just for reference..i like Girl A more than Girl
that's my current social situation, and its alos kinda like a field report...thats why i posted it here
horserotorvator
Don Juan
my computer is **** so I havent been able to post much lately. This week I've been approaching at least 1 new girl every day, sometimes two. I haven't been getting to many phone #s because I haven't really mastered the art of closing yet. I'll get involved in a flirtation and then the bell will wring or something that interrupts my flow and I'll end up saying "bye, nice to meet ya" and then end up w/no #. I have a problem w/not asking for it when I should. I hear a vocie telling me to do it, but I don't. I guess I just need to listen to my insticts more and just DO it. I've been concentrating on making more guy friends right now. Bros before hos. I have noticed a lot of guys here at my new school are absolute chumps. Even the football team has its fair share of AFC's. Theres a lot of dudes who either never talk to girls or be their "friends" in the hopes that the girl will end up ****ing them or something. I had one guy tell me that a girl told him I was being too "direct" about my intentions. I guess approaching, talking fluff, and getting a number is something weird here, I don't know. Anyways I haven't been here too long so maybe I'm wrong about this, but as a newbie DJ I feel a little lonely here. I'm starting to make friends w/some guys who are real macks (there are few here) so hopefully I'll have some good wingmen or better yet mentors who I can learn from.
And heres a story so this post isn't just BS about me. I tried one of Mr. Finger's lines the other day during lunch. i was wrapping it up and I spotted a super hottie HB9 chatting w/a friend. I saunter up to her side, touch her on the arm to get her attention, and say "Hi, I just wanted to talk to the prettiest girl in the room".
She smiles, and points to her friend and says I should talk to her. I was a little thrown off by that, but continued: "Yeah, well shes over there (points at hottie redhead at another table) but I'm too nervous to talk to her so I thought I'd practice on you first". Her face kind of falls, and she says "You're an *******" and walks off. Hey if she can't take a joke then **** her.
And heres a story so this post isn't just BS about me. I tried one of Mr. Finger's lines the other day during lunch. i was wrapping it up and I spotted a super hottie HB9 chatting w/a friend. I saunter up to her side, touch her on the arm to get her attention, and say "Hi, I just wanted to talk to the prettiest girl in the room".
She smiles, and points to her friend and says I should talk to her. I was a little thrown off by that, but continued: "Yeah, well shes over there (points at hottie redhead at another table) but I'm too nervous to talk to her so I thought I'd practice on you first". Her face kind of falls, and she says "You're an *******" and walks off. Hey if she can't take a joke then **** her.
my story:
( ______ stands for my girlfriend)
*dont wanna use names =]*
as alot of you know the wonderful MYSPACE is how we met basicly. she sent me an invite to this local show (luckly =]) and i just got my license then so i was like since i have my licnse i should go out and do stuff so i was liek yeah ill go to the show and come to find out there was no show so i was like w/e and then i started talking to her online a little bit (aim) and we got to know eachother, she had a boyfriend, and i wasnt expecting to date her at the time. so the show the rescheduled and she wanted me to go and i was like no i barly know you (but i made the excuse of my mom said no or w/e) so she was like fine. and after that we just talked alooot over the internet and became good friends and we got along well, had alot of the same interests and the whole 9 yards. so i was like great i got a new friend! (i just lost a bunch of friends, by choice) she started calling me and at the time i wasnt interested in her at all because she had a boyfriend and she just didnt seem like she was my type. well time grew on and we started hanging out, like bowling, hangin at her place, movies, etc. i started to get feelings for her, like most guys get when they hang out with a girl on their own time long enough. and it was pretty obvious she had feelings for me too, but i wasnt 100% sure if she liked me or didnt because she still had a boyfriend and i just wasnt sure, i dont think anyone can be too sure about anything unless they hear it from the source. one day her bestfriend asks "do you like _____?" and i was said "what if i do" just to be ****y about it and shes said "just wondering" and obviously i knew ______ told her to ask so i kept thinkin she must like me. but i just kept our relationship friendly since she had a boyfriend. even though it was about 2 months that we knew eachother, we became really good friends, which can be good and in my case it was good. soon on i kept hearing from her that she is having problems with her boyfriend and all this drama with her and eventually they broke up. (no suprise there) and right before then i started to say to my self, i should go out and get another girl and stop wasting my time on her. but soon after they broke up she confessed she liked me on the internet i was like okay. well.... im sorry i told your bestfriend i liked you, but you just broke up with your boyfriend and its too early for you to be dating (seems wierd and it seemd wierd for me too i wanted to like her but my body/mind didnt want to like her in that way anymore) so we just stayed friends. so a few days later she wants me to go camping with her and her family and the best friend so i said ok, ive never gone camping with out my family so i was excited. and that camping trip changed me again. i started flirting with her like hitting her (nothing brutal but like little pushes and back hands, just friendly flirty stuff) and i called her lil names here and there and then after that camping trip i reallllly started to like her. but she didnt know. till i confessed a few days later and told her i did. so she knew i started liken her and we just started hanging out more and more and one night me and her 2 friends went bowling, i was like okay tonight is the night. but i didnt know how i was going to ask her out. so i was like if i get the chance ill ask and if not ill wait. because i wanted it to be unique and nothing lame like. out of the blue "will you go out with me" i dont roll that way. i like things to be remembered and cherished. so as we were bowling i was like wow im not going to have a chance. and her friend that was there ruined it even more because she kept saying ARE YOU GOING TO ASK HER OUT in whisper mode and i was like SHUT UP!!! and it was just stupid and she could totally tell. but i still went with it like she didnt. but as we were bowling she went up to bowl and before we were messing with eachothers names on the score board and i was like hmm i got an idea so while she was bowling i changed her name to WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME and she looked and her friends were like AWWW! and she was speachless and said yes. and we hugged and we finished up our game. and then we had to go. and its been over a month now and we are going strong and i love it. we go to differnt schools which is a good thing because we dont see eachother every frickin day but even if we did i couldnt get annoyed from her and same goes with me with her. but its still okay. we see eachother at least everyone other day and on the weekends. i think alot of it has to do with not so much physical attraction but with friendship, being good friends is a plus if you want to make it somewhere with a girl. shes my best friend. i wouldnt change it in any way. im still young and may not know whats right. but lets see who is right in the end
if it wasnt for you guys at don juan, i highly doubt i would have her right now, she took my shyness to REALLY SHY to not so much shy anymore. and alot of it came from you guys too. self confidence is key! but i can understand some of the things wont work with anyone, everything above is what worked for me with her. thats all i can say. good luck to you all!
( ______ stands for my girlfriend)
*dont wanna use names =]*
as alot of you know the wonderful MYSPACE is how we met basicly. she sent me an invite to this local show (luckly =]) and i just got my license then so i was like since i have my licnse i should go out and do stuff so i was liek yeah ill go to the show and come to find out there was no show so i was like w/e and then i started talking to her online a little bit (aim) and we got to know eachother, she had a boyfriend, and i wasnt expecting to date her at the time. so the show the rescheduled and she wanted me to go and i was like no i barly know you (but i made the excuse of my mom said no or w/e) so she was like fine. and after that we just talked alooot over the internet and became good friends and we got along well, had alot of the same interests and the whole 9 yards. so i was like great i got a new friend! (i just lost a bunch of friends, by choice) she started calling me and at the time i wasnt interested in her at all because she had a boyfriend and she just didnt seem like she was my type. well time grew on and we started hanging out, like bowling, hangin at her place, movies, etc. i started to get feelings for her, like most guys get when they hang out with a girl on their own time long enough. and it was pretty obvious she had feelings for me too, but i wasnt 100% sure if she liked me or didnt because she still had a boyfriend and i just wasnt sure, i dont think anyone can be too sure about anything unless they hear it from the source. one day her bestfriend asks "do you like _____?" and i was said "what if i do" just to be ****y about it and shes said "just wondering" and obviously i knew ______ told her to ask so i kept thinkin she must like me. but i just kept our relationship friendly since she had a boyfriend. even though it was about 2 months that we knew eachother, we became really good friends, which can be good and in my case it was good. soon on i kept hearing from her that she is having problems with her boyfriend and all this drama with her and eventually they broke up. (no suprise there) and right before then i started to say to my self, i should go out and get another girl and stop wasting my time on her. but soon after they broke up she confessed she liked me on the internet i was like okay. well.... im sorry i told your bestfriend i liked you, but you just broke up with your boyfriend and its too early for you to be dating (seems wierd and it seemd wierd for me too i wanted to like her but my body/mind didnt want to like her in that way anymore) so we just stayed friends. so a few days later she wants me to go camping with her and her family and the best friend so i said ok, ive never gone camping with out my family so i was excited. and that camping trip changed me again. i started flirting with her like hitting her (nothing brutal but like little pushes and back hands, just friendly flirty stuff) and i called her lil names here and there and then after that camping trip i reallllly started to like her. but she didnt know. till i confessed a few days later and told her i did. so she knew i started liken her and we just started hanging out more and more and one night me and her 2 friends went bowling, i was like okay tonight is the night. but i didnt know how i was going to ask her out. so i was like if i get the chance ill ask and if not ill wait. because i wanted it to be unique and nothing lame like. out of the blue "will you go out with me" i dont roll that way. i like things to be remembered and cherished. so as we were bowling i was like wow im not going to have a chance. and her friend that was there ruined it even more because she kept saying ARE YOU GOING TO ASK HER OUT in whisper mode and i was like SHUT UP!!! and it was just stupid and she could totally tell. but i still went with it like she didnt. but as we were bowling she went up to bowl and before we were messing with eachothers names on the score board and i was like hmm i got an idea so while she was bowling i changed her name to WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME and she looked and her friends were like AWWW! and she was speachless and said yes. and we hugged and we finished up our game. and then we had to go. and its been over a month now and we are going strong and i love it. we go to differnt schools which is a good thing because we dont see eachother every frickin day but even if we did i couldnt get annoyed from her and same goes with me with her. but its still okay. we see eachother at least everyone other day and on the weekends. i think alot of it has to do with not so much physical attraction but with friendship, being good friends is a plus if you want to make it somewhere with a girl. shes my best friend. i wouldnt change it in any way. im still young and may not know whats right. but lets see who is right in the end
if it wasnt for you guys at don juan, i highly doubt i would have her right now, she took my shyness to REALLY SHY to not so much shy anymore. and alot of it came from you guys too. self confidence is key! but i can understand some of the things wont work with anyone, everything above is what worked for me with her. thats all i can say. good luck to you all!
horserotorvator
Don Juan
Hey guys, I'm just posting my intent to start the DJ boot camp on Mon. If your interested in doing the BC w/me thats, fine, if not then I'm doing it anyways. I find that it helps to have a goal to shoot for and the boot camp seems perfect. I'll be merging week 1 & 2, so I'll work on the "hi's" and convos at the same time. Like I'll get E/C w/someone, say hi, then start the convo. I'm too impatient to wait a week to start the convos. I don't really have anything good to report this week: I was down w/a bad cold till Wed. and I'm still getting over it. Its kinda hard to talk to girls when you've got snot tobaganing out of your nose.
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KaminoSS
Don Juan
ive been hitting up this one girl for awhile now ive already got her # and stuff weve hung outr and stuff. then it droped off at the beginning of this year. so 3 weeks in i started talkign to her alot more but every time i talk to her i get the simple 1 word awnsers which i usualy reply w/ C&F il get a laugh but she just wont talk more. im thinking of just nexting her. but gonna keep tryin my luk awas wonderin if you guys got tipps on getting a girl to come out of her shell.
Homecoming FR:
At the start things were going great, I was using PLENTY of kino. Great eye contact, good convo.
I'm not a great dancer (little experience) but I did suprisingly well. I just followed her movement (this was grinding dancing). * - got a question about the dancing after the rest. I was with her most of the time, talked to a few of my friends, some girls. Had to make a few calls. Then near the end she started to seem a bit drawn back. She said she was tired (this was at the end of homecoming anyways, but I had planned to party with her after). So she ended up going home...It was so odd, she was showing really great signs of interest then she just seemed not interested at all. Closed body language. Was it that I took my interest off her every once in a while to talk to friends? She did get up at pretty early in the morning according to her, and it was late at night.
Any input?
*As far as the dancing. If she puts her arms in the air, is this an open invite for some tit grabbing? How about running her hands over yours? Anyone have any body language tips that work with dancing?
At the start things were going great, I was using PLENTY of kino. Great eye contact, good convo.
I'm not a great dancer (little experience) but I did suprisingly well. I just followed her movement (this was grinding dancing). * - got a question about the dancing after the rest. I was with her most of the time, talked to a few of my friends, some girls. Had to make a few calls. Then near the end she started to seem a bit drawn back. She said she was tired (this was at the end of homecoming anyways, but I had planned to party with her after). So she ended up going home...It was so odd, she was showing really great signs of interest then she just seemed not interested at all. Closed body language. Was it that I took my interest off her every once in a while to talk to friends? She did get up at pretty early in the morning according to her, and it was late at night.
Any input?
*As far as the dancing. If she puts her arms in the air, is this an open invite for some tit grabbing? How about running her hands over yours? Anyone have any body language tips that work with dancing?
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
yes, but if your a true gentlemen you come back to share with those less fortunate.
kulowiper
Don Juan
lol I dont go to SoSuave.net as I used to before.
Well I will share with the less fortunate then, because I owe SoSuave.net from changing me from a 220 puonder fat ass to a 180 pounder that has a positive outlook on life even though people in life keep screwing you over. LoL
One day, I was kicking it with my friends at school. Since we are seniors, I finally struck it with being friends who are actually into girls. LOL some freinds are gay and have low self-esteem and aren't open into talking about girls. Well it was during lunch and I aproached about 5 women LOL. It was first time also. I found out a cool trick when sarging. Is that my friends always pick the girl that I talk to and I actually talk to them. But heres my problem. Is that when I have an intended target that I fancy, its like I freeze up, I start gloryfing on her looks. That is a killer for me. Well that one lunch period when I approached them I was like in a high, but I got blown off all 5 or 4 times. I blew myself off when I didint have any follow up game. Like when I aproached two girls in school,(during Luch) this is how the convo went:
Me: Hey, You want to ****?
Her: (Fuvcking fantastic the look on their faces they were surprised)
They actaully kept talking to me the 2 girls who I said Lets **** to. I managed to blow it off since I had no follow up game. LOL
Just because my friends told me to aproach them, I actually did it. The only enemy in the Don Juan arsenal is YOURSELF As many other famous philophsers like me have stated. Peace and Rejoice. Remember l
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Well I will share with the less fortunate then, because I owe SoSuave.net from changing me from a 220 puonder fat ass to a 180 pounder that has a positive outlook on life even though people in life keep screwing you over. LoL
One day, I was kicking it with my friends at school. Since we are seniors, I finally struck it with being friends who are actually into girls. LOL some freinds are gay and have low self-esteem and aren't open into talking about girls. Well it was during lunch and I aproached about 5 women LOL. It was first time also. I found out a cool trick when sarging. Is that my friends always pick the girl that I talk to and I actually talk to them. But heres my problem. Is that when I have an intended target that I fancy, its like I freeze up, I start gloryfing on her looks. That is a killer for me. Well that one lunch period when I approached them I was like in a high, but I got blown off all 5 or 4 times. I blew myself off when I didint have any follow up game. Like when I aproached two girls in school,(during Luch) this is how the convo went:
Me: Hey, You want to ****?
Her: (Fuvcking fantastic the look on their faces they were surprised)
They actaully kept talking to me the 2 girls who I said Lets **** to. I managed to blow it off since I had no follow up game. LOL
Just because my friends told me to aproach them, I actually did it. The only enemy in the Don Juan arsenal is YOURSELF As many other famous philophsers like me have stated. Peace and Rejoice. Remember l
l
V
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.