"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Communictaion in Relationships

Rainman4707

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How much do you guys communicate in relationships?

I read a article in AskMen or Mensheath & it stated communication is crucial. Without it we're fu*ked.

Men don't share their feelings though

We cannot tell women everything we are feeling.

Maybe I've answered my own question. Communicate, but don't overdo it.

My GF
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Communicate... just don't talk about your 'feeling'. Do this, and in her eyes you turn into a chick.
 

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Dear Rainman,
As a facetious aside,30 Years ago I used to frequent a Nightclub in the basement of a stylish Hotel...The Dancing was wonderful...One Night,I noticed a Table of Visitors,there was a stunning Lady there...Blond,great Hangar,pretty...Saw her stumbling around the floor with someone from her Table...It was obvious she could Dance well...Cut a long story short,she came over to me and led me by the hand onto the Dance Floor,they were playing a Quick Step...She was good...I danced several brackets with her...Later on as it was getting late, I changed my shoes,started to leave.....As I am walking out,She is there beside me,grabs my Hand takes me to the Lift and led me to her Room...She was a Magic Lover,good Dancers generally are...But the Interesting thing was,that though I deduced that she was she was of some Scandinavian Race,she couldn't speak a word of English..LOL.
 

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Communication IS critical, but depends what kind.

Are you referring to problems? Setting boundaries?

One thing I've learned is being passive aggressive or worse yet a woman who is, will only make things terrible in the long run. Be open, communicate, but don't become a woman about it. Generally it's best if she brings the topic up unless you're setting a boundary.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Show emotion without being needy.

The key is to not be needy. Unless it's like something like your dog or your dad dying there really shouldn't be tears anyway, but you probably get what I mean.

Women communicate much more through actions/movements than they do through words. Remembering that can really help as well.

I play guitar and I found that women think I'm really emotional and sensitive even though I am really only playing songs that I know will get their panties wet.
 

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Communication is very important.

"Turn over."
"Put your legs behind your head."
"Get on your knees."

After that, set a few boundaries, and she's good to go.
 

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Women WISH the MAN that was bon1ng them would talk to them..... but don't date the men who are their "girlfriends"..... I know which one I'd rather be
 

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Communicate as much as you can non verbally. Show her more than you tell her whenever possible. And as others have said don't start spilling feelings. When I do communicate verbally I do it proactively. Will drop hints to a woman ahead of time about what I expect, before it's even an issue in the present.
 

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Rainman4707 said:
How much do you guys communicate in relationships?

I read a article in AskMen or Mensheath & it stated communication is crucial. Without it we're fu*ked.

Men don't share their feelings though.

We cannot tell women everything we are feeling.

Maybe I've answered my own question. Communicate, but don't overdo it.

My GF

I grew up hearing this sh!t on tv, books, magazines, etc.

My experience tells me that they should communicate, you should listen and only tell them a little. This keeps their interest level higher. Talk too much and they will "know you", and move on. Women bore easily and quickly.

"I guess I was just brought up to be the strong, silent type, it's just how I am". This is a perfectly fine way to do it. They would do the same...remember that. Always think "what would they do"?, and go from there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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glass half full said:
I grew up hearing this sh!t on tv, books, magazines, etc.

My experience tells me that they should communicate, you should listen and only tell them a little. This keeps their interest level higher. Talk too much and they will "know you", and move on. Women bore easily and quickly.
Agreed.

If you want to talk about what is critical, that is respect, followed by desire. At least in the long term.
 

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Agree with much already said. I think you do need to communicate in a relationship for it to work: communicate what you want her to *do*, what you will *do*, what needs to get *done*. In other words, communicate around action, not feelings. Leave that to her.
 
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