"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Communication between dates

miles79

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I'm sorry if this has been discussed before. It's my first post here, though I've lurked a while.

So, my particular problem: I've met a girl online, exchanged messages for awhile and had a first date a couple of days ago. Date went ok - about the best I expected. She loved that I came to take her on a motorcycle, date lasted almost 4 hours (mostly talk), and at the end she reminded me I promised I'll teach her to ride a bike (to which I very alpha replied "Did I? I guess I did...").

Next day I sent her (online) a couple of links I mentioned during the date and commented nothing else, and she replied after a few hours that she started watching one of them.

Now, my question is: I'll be leaving in two days abroad for a short holiday, and she knows it. Do I contact her before this? And more generally, when/how should one talk to a girl (online, phone) after a good date?

Background info: we're the same age (over 30) and she's officially looking for something serious (but I don't think she's very hung up on this). She's probably a 7 by sosuave standards - definitely not bad.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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Greasy Pig

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If just say goodbye a couple of days before you leave. Tell her you had planned to take her out but make up something funny about having to leave to save the world or some shyt.
I wouldn't organise anything with her until you get back. Unless you think she might be up for a bang before you leave.
 
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