"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Common habits which kill your confidence
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
either photosopped or almost perfect face
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Add this one to the list:
Comparing yourself to ANYBODY else.
I've found that your greatest competition TODAY is the guy you were YESTERDAY.
V.U.
Comparing yourself to ANYBODY else.
I've found that your greatest competition TODAY is the guy you were YESTERDAY.
V.U.
BeExcellent
Master Don Juan
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Advice from the old lady:
Here are some things that I catch my guy doing that trick fvck his mind & erode his confidence. Not gonna BS, I struggle with them as well too from time to time...
1. Negative assumption. Never ever assume something that relates to you in a negative light relative to someone else. This has a passive aggressive quality to it, and it creates a sense of feeling bad or projecting negativity and insecurity into an otherwise neutral situation. Poison is negative assumption. Things like:
-She doesn’t like me
-She’s ignoring me
-She’s mad
-Im not good enough
-I can never make you happy (Um....not your responsibility, FYI)
This kind of thought puts you down and holds you back and sours both your attitude & perspective.
Negative assumption is a self esteem assassin. This is what I find my BF doing as a matter of habit without thinking about it. It’s interesting because when it’s pointed out & called out he is able to step back & observe this self defeating behavior...and can consciously work to overcome it.
Frankly lots of the community here does this.
2. Inaction. I live by the maxim that “a man (or woman) with experience is never at the mercy of a man with a theory.” In other words ACT. Action annihilates fear and builds innate confidence through doing and doing IN SPITE of fear (that my friends is courage). You can not be a shrinking scaredy cat if you are out there in the line of Fire taking the heat and surviving to tell the tale of survival TO YOURSELF. After you realize you’ll survive...then you’ll learn you can thrive. Your fear will evaporate into vapor and vanish. I know. I have done it and overcome various fears through action.
Those two things will go a long way toward changing your outcomes in life.
Cheers -BE
Here are some things that I catch my guy doing that trick fvck his mind & erode his confidence. Not gonna BS, I struggle with them as well too from time to time...
1. Negative assumption. Never ever assume something that relates to you in a negative light relative to someone else. This has a passive aggressive quality to it, and it creates a sense of feeling bad or projecting negativity and insecurity into an otherwise neutral situation. Poison is negative assumption. Things like:
-She doesn’t like me
-She’s ignoring me
-She’s mad
-Im not good enough
-I can never make you happy (Um....not your responsibility, FYI)
This kind of thought puts you down and holds you back and sours both your attitude & perspective.
Negative assumption is a self esteem assassin. This is what I find my BF doing as a matter of habit without thinking about it. It’s interesting because when it’s pointed out & called out he is able to step back & observe this self defeating behavior...and can consciously work to overcome it.
Frankly lots of the community here does this.
2. Inaction. I live by the maxim that “a man (or woman) with experience is never at the mercy of a man with a theory.” In other words ACT. Action annihilates fear and builds innate confidence through doing and doing IN SPITE of fear (that my friends is courage). You can not be a shrinking scaredy cat if you are out there in the line of Fire taking the heat and surviving to tell the tale of survival TO YOURSELF. After you realize you’ll survive...then you’ll learn you can thrive. Your fear will evaporate into vapor and vanish. I know. I have done it and overcome various fears through action.
Those two things will go a long way toward changing your outcomes in life.
Cheers -BE