Commitment in a relationship

[Engetsu]

I think I am afraid of commitment. Let me explain.

I've been going out with this girl (HB7.5) for 2 weeks and a half now, but I don't have any feelings towards her. I've also thought about breaking up.

I know I should listen to my feelings, but she told me 3 days ago that she wants to remain a virgin, and I don't want her to interpret the fact of me breaking up as a sign that I only wanted sex out of her, which I don't.

Her personality doesn't appeal me, and even though we haven't had sex, we went far enough for me to be satisfied physically (handjob, seen her naked, etc.), and this fact just shut off my valves. Did we go too fast?

Also, after having seen her naked, I have to move her down on the scale, which isn't good either.

I am also thinking if a relationship is what I really want: I don't have the same motivation for DJing since I know there is a backup plan (my gf). I also miss being free and macking on anything that walks

Please help me out by pointing me on the path to illumination :S

A confused Engetsu

 

[Engetsu]

any replies? please

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

1. Figure out the character traits of the woman that could make you want to stop playing the field. Be very specific. Divide the list into 'must haves' and 'like to haves'.

2. Play the field until you come across a woman that fits your list of traits the most, it's unlikely you will find someone with all of them though.

3. Once you find one, don't make any major commitments until you've dated for at least six months. It usually takes that long for someone to show their real character.

4. Repeat until you find someone who fits.

 

[tracy Jaks]

What is it you want?? a gf? or a gf u like? or just to be a player?

And second question is, how badly do want what you want?

think about it, you got a gf, seen her naked, got hand jobs.

Some guys would be proud to have got that far,be honest with yourself, ****ing every girl you date isnt all its cracked up to be, ****ing a girl you love, is.

but it all comes down to what you want, you can either look at it one of two ways:

1. if i am attached to nothing, i shall lose nothing.
2. If i have a chick i like, i feel part of something.

so there probably didnt help much, but make your own decision.