Comment from Platonic Girl-Pal

[everthunder]

Hey DJ's - Here's one that bothered me last night, and I know you're up to the challenge.

The background: I had dinner with a girl who I've known for several years, though nothing physical or romantic was ever in the picture. I know some of you think having friend-girls is not helpful, but it's important in my line of work to network a lot. The two of us have a good working relationship, but it so happens that we do run in similar social circles.

During dinner, I said that next week I'd be going back to school for my second MBA year, and that I need to keep the partying to a minimum on Saturday night.

Her response was "Really? I haven't seen you lately at any of the events." My response was to give her a frowning "Huh?" look, as if she didn't know what the **** she was talking about. Then she said, "Oh, well maybe you're going to different places than I am."

OK folks - Is there anything implied in what she's saying, or am I over-analyzing?

 

[Bonhomme]

If anything, it means she either notices you or thinks about you (at least a little bit). Otherwise, she'd not notice your absence. Generally I take such comments in a positive light.

 

[theunflushables]

Overanalyzing.

Like Bonhomme said take it in a positive light. Hell, you might learn of some new places to check out.

 

[everthunder]

Thanks for the feedback guys. Good stuff.

 

[Luscious]

You're reading too much into it.

Casual comment in a casual conversation, but the fact that she's noting your presence (at least in passing) indicates there's hookup potential if you ever pursue it.

 

[Dongfu]

What happened is you missed an opportunity to find out exactly how interested in you she is.

You could have smiled at her and said something like, "Would you have liked to see me at more parties?"

Or you could have negged her and said, "Well, that's because I've been avoiding you, " followed by a smirk. "I dont do well with stalkers."

Every time a woman speaks is an opportunity for you. Your success depends on how you handle those opportunities.