"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hey DJ's - Here's one that bothered me last night, and I know you're up to the challenge.

The background: I had dinner with a girl who I've known for several years, though nothing physical or romantic was ever in the picture. I know some of you think having friend-girls is not helpful, but it's important in my line of work to network a lot. The two of us have a good working relationship, but it so happens that we do run in similar social circles.

During dinner, I said that next week I'd be going back to school for my second MBA year, and that I need to keep the partying to a minimum on Saturday night.

Her response was "Really? I haven't seen you lately at any of the events." My response was to give her a frowning "Huh?" look, as if she didn't know what the **** she was talking about. Then she said, "Oh, well maybe you're going to different places than I am."

OK folks - Is there anything implied in what she's saying, or am I over-analyzing?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If anything, it means she either notices you or thinks about you (at least a little bit). Otherwise, she'd not notice your absence. Generally I take such comments in a positive light.
 
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Overanalyzing.

Like Bonhomme said take it in a positive light. Hell, you might learn of some new places to check out.
 
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You're reading too much into it.

Casual comment in a casual conversation, but the fact that she's noting your presence (at least in passing) indicates there's hookup potential if you ever pursue it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What happened is you missed an opportunity to find out exactly how interested in you she is.

You could have smiled at her and said something like, "Would you have liked to see me at more parties?"

Or you could have negged her and said, "Well, that's because I've been avoiding you, " followed by a smirk. "I dont do well with stalkers."

Every time a woman speaks is an opportunity for you. Your success depends on how you handle those opportunities.
 
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