"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Commendable "not a nice guy" behaviors

Plateonics

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What are some commendable behaviors of a man who isn't a "nice guy"?

What positive characteristics of this man help him to promote good relations with his partner? Obviously, not being "too nice" and "spoiling" her, but what "principle" does he stick to?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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El Payaso

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He sticks to the principle of rewarding good behavior with his attention and time and rewarding bad behavior by pulling away said attention and time.
 
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He takes and lead and controls the conversation. Hes not impressed by her and her bragging. He lives in abundance and is not too attached to certain things, mainly her.
 

Greasy Pig

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He isn't afraid to offend a woman.
For example: HB: "I love cats! They're so cute and adorable."
AFC (who hates cats): "Yeah, I love cats too! The more the better!"
DJ with principles (who hates cats): "I love cats too. I once had a hat made out of 10 cat skins (or some other statement showing your true colours)."

Sure, you run the risk of offending some crazy cat lady but at least you show her you're not scared and that you're a challenge.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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