"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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combatting nerves/stress

Don Juanobi

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Everyday all day long I go through feelings of nervousness and anxiouty that never really goes away. After lunch is usually the worst sometimes resulting in mild hyperventilating.

my work is suffereing as
I am constantly stewing over things in my head and I'm stressing out over non work related subjects... I have a hard time concentrating on anything.
I am experiancing newfound sucess with women and frankly I am now half scared and half excited at the same time.

how do i reduce my stress levels and get rid of my nervousness.. especially before I am about to meet a woman.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Eternal

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Get a stress ball, go for a run, or listen to some music. That can help.
 

marqZAL

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The best way to control stress it go out and dance to some good house music!!!!

Hit the heavy bag!!!

Hit the weight room!!!
Get a pick up game of basketball!!!



You need to do something physical, to let all the deamons out!!!!
 

dionysius_d

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stop thinking.

learn to meditate.. you are living in your head too much

learn to become aware of what you are doing.

when you become aware that you are "stewing over thoughts" , stop and put your awareness back into your body. ground yourself.

stop yourself every hour if you need to and go inside. just for a few minutes. do one thing at a time. do not read or watch tv when eating.

stop yourself from thinking when you can. come back to your body and root yourself in the present. :p
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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crimsonclockwork

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I have or had the same exact problem you are having. I highly suggest meditation (I am looking into some of that right now). But you have to realize the fact that there is nothing to be nervous over! There really isn't. Its all in the head. It takes days or even weeks to realize that, but really-thats all it is. You can fight these mental feelings-that make it seem like it is phsyical.
 
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