"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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combatting nerves/stress

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Everyday all day long I go through feelings of nervousness and anxiouty that never really goes away. After lunch is usually the worst sometimes resulting in mild hyperventilating.

my work is suffereing as
I am constantly stewing over things in my head and I'm stressing out over non work related subjects... I have a hard time concentrating on anything.
I am experiancing newfound sucess with women and frankly I am now half scared and half excited at the same time.

how do i reduce my stress levels and get rid of my nervousness.. especially before I am about to meet a woman.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Get a stress ball, go for a run, or listen to some music. That can help.
 
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The best way to control stress it go out and dance to some good house music!!!!

Hit the heavy bag!!!

Hit the weight room!!!
Get a pick up game of basketball!!!



You need to do something physical, to let all the deamons out!!!!
 
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stop thinking.

learn to meditate.. you are living in your head too much

learn to become aware of what you are doing.

when you become aware that you are "stewing over thoughts" , stop and put your awareness back into your body. ground yourself.

stop yourself every hour if you need to and go inside. just for a few minutes. do one thing at a time. do not read or watch tv when eating.

stop yourself from thinking when you can. come back to your body and root yourself in the present. :p
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have or had the same exact problem you are having. I highly suggest meditation (I am looking into some of that right now). But you have to realize the fact that there is nothing to be nervous over! There really isn't. Its all in the head. It takes days or even weeks to realize that, but really-thats all it is. You can fight these mental feelings-that make it seem like it is phsyical.
 
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