Heathcliff
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I am from Columbus Ohio and looking for other wingmen.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Columbus Ohio?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Black Widow Void
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Welcome aboard.
Sorry to say that I'm not from the area, but have enjoyed many bands from your city (Pet UFO, New Bomb Turks, Scrawl, etc...)
Sorry to say that I'm not from the area, but have enjoyed many bands from your city (Pet UFO, New Bomb Turks, Scrawl, etc...)
TheCharmingGuy
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Welcome!
FraUnderRadaren
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Yeah, you just missed me as I moved out of the area several months ago, too 
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Heathcliff
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Hopefully you guys moved somewhere really cool like Texas or Florida. If you're gonna live in a big city in the midwest, Columbus is probably the best.
FraUnderRadaren
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Still in Ohio and avoiding big cities right now
Heathcliff
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Do you have an easier time meeting women in small towns or big cities?
BedSwerver
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I'm in Columbus and am willing to wing!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Don't spend too much time in the Short North District