"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Have you guys experimented with this at all? Any effect on women?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wear a cologne that I get regular compliments on from females while walking in public. It makes for a great conversation opener. Girls I date obsess over it.
 

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It can be an easy conversation opener if you are hanging out at the bar...I can't tell you how many times a conversation started with a female telling me I smelled good.

Like muscles, cologne can do work for you and make your life easier
 

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I've had girls I work with say I smell good when I stick some cologne on but that's about it. Never a random chick opening a convo.

Of course smelling awful is going to destroy your chances with anyone, so if you have the chance to smell good why wouldn't you? I think it gives you an additional shade of personality too - if you and your clothes always smell of a particular masculine fragrance, it becomes unique to you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes if you are seeing a girl and keep wearing the same scent they will love it, even if they didn't originally
 

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Versace light blue.

Youre welcome.
 

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Who the fukk cares? Just wear what you like. Anything you do for the sake of women is the wrong frame and will, eventually turn them off.
 

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Who the fukk cares? Just wear what you like. Anything you do for the sake of women is the wrong frame and will, eventually turn them off.
This has nothing to do with "frame" or "alpha" or any of that other BS people like to espouse everything in life has to do with.

A lot of Europeans dont wear deodorant and smell like walking pigpens from 20 feet away, I am supoosed to believe because I wear deodorant I have the wrong frame? This sh!t is common sense.

It has to do with making your life easier in regards to getting an end result.
 

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You must always smell nice and wear cologne, it's what I've been taught from family members from young.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This has nothing to do with "frame" or "alpha" or any of that other BS people like to espouse everything in life has to do with.

A lot of Europeans dont wear deodorant and smell like walking pigpens from 20 feet away, I am supoosed to believe because I wear deodorant I have the wrong frame? This sh!t is common sense.

It has to do with making your life easier in regards to getting an end result.
"Europeans" - are you aware of how large and diverse Europe is?
 

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Scent is a big deal. Cologne is like frosting on a cake. Sure the cake is the main part but he frosting can lure someone in.

Men should have 5 colognes and purpose is for what you doing.

You were a different cologne at work then you out at night or during the day etc.

My prior lineup was
Givenchy PI
Armani Attraction
Diesel Fuel
Light Blue Dolce & Gabbana
Kenneth Cole Signature


Each of those vary quite a bit, Cole was more for conservative occasions. Light Blue was for outdoor activities or when you wanted a light fresh scent. Fuel is an aggressive scent. Attraction is a in your face scent and PI makes you smell like Vanilla which can get some women arosed but on a subtle basis.

Start small and experiment. Colognes very from person to person based on how they react to our skin. Subtlety is much more valuable than an assault on the senses in most cases.

Pay attention to how women react to you wearing a cologne.
 

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I wore Versace and didn’t get compliments. But I get compliments when I wear Cool water and Polo. Go figure.
 

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I'm halfway through a bottle of Calvin Klein Euphoria. It has been well-received.

That's interesting that "light blue" scents are now around. Some of the 'blue' colognes are a touch heavy. I have an old bottle of Issey Miyake Blue - it would be a great club or bar cologne, but is too strong to wear in most places.
 

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Seriously guys Tom Ford - Private Blend.

I smelt it on some dude who walked past who I thought must have been an angel, went and bought myself some and get questioned weekly on it. It’s pricey but oh so worth it. Best scent on the market in 2018, go and test it in a store and tell me it’s not fvcking heaven.

Edit: my boss bought me Armani Code yesterday for my bday, it bangs.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The point here is if you are wearing the right cologne, you will have women open you! If you guys don't like women opening you then just keep wearing what you are wearing. The same thing applies to shoes.
 

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Seriously guys Tom Ford - Private Blend.

I smelt it on some dude who walked past who I thought must have been an angel, went and bought myself some and get questioned weekly on it. It’s pricey but oh so worth it. Best scent on the market in 2018, go and test it in a store and tell me it’s not fvcking heaven.

Edit: my boss bought me Armani Code yesterday for my bday, it bangs.
Hi. If I may ask which Tom Ford Private Blend did you buy?
 

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Hi. If I may ask which Tom Ford Private Blend did you buy?
Oud wood and tobacco vanille, I just seen some mandarino on amazon in a sale. Smells great and lasts forever.
 

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Thanks gentleman I also have Tuscan Leather and will try the other ones
 
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