You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Cologne is like wine, in a sense. It can make some women a little bubbly, slightly intoxicated, or flat-out drunk. I wouldn't recommend anything so strong that it would make women DRUNK by the smell of it. lolWelsh DJ said:What colognes / aftershaves would you guys recommend using? Is it a good idea to have a range of them?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
i like the tom ford alot.Burroughs said:good stuff BB
since you go deep into this fragrance game I'm going to pose a question I've struggled with:
Guerlain Vetiver vs Tom Ford Grey Vetiver
guerlain..classic though intense.
tom ford...subtle, refined.
I give the edge to ford because of its daily wearability. (though the guerlain is the king of kings in many ways)
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
if you liek the barbershop go get some clubman aftershave. that's basically what it is. the stuff they put on you at the barbershopHalfAddict said:Don't hate on the Old Spice bro...
I also like Hawleywoods no.9 which makes me smell like a barbershop.
Down Low you know putting cologne on fabric alters the scent. Neck, wrists, and chest, on bare skin then your body will carry the scent.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
pretty much.l you have your base smells and most knew stuff is just a variation on that.Bible_Belt said:I read somewhere that the number of different essential oils that are available to perfume and cologne makers is actually quite small, 250 or so. I think that's why the older fragrances have not been really been replaced. It's hard to come up with new ones.
Aqua di Gio is actually the worst fragrance EVER, by far! It smells UNPLEASANT, even outright DIRTY and it is the only fragrance that ever evoked feelings of HATE inside of me. I remember how basically EVERYONE was wearing it like 10 years ago, particularly the type of guys who thought they were cool but really were fake @ss motherfukking losers whose faces I wanted to punch in. I truly and utterly DESPISE Aqua di Gio and the people who wore it at it's height of popularity. I've never really experienced such negativity towards a fragrance, it stands unique... If anyone ever gave me a bottle of this GARBAGE, I'd feel INSULTED and smash it into the ground right in front of them!thebluntguy said:And I'm surprised nobody brought up the best smelling cologne on the market. Aqu Di Gio by Giorgio Armani is a can't miss scent. It's a bit outdated now, but I'm telling you, I've never met a woman that doesn't like the smell.
You say that you had this intense hatred for this cologne. Very weird if you want my opinion to hate something so viceraly. But you never said women hated it. I got news for you buddy....nobody cares if you like it or not. Men don't wear cologne to impress other men. At least not straight guys. This cologne gets great reactions from women. Afterall, that's why we wear the **** in the first place.Die Hard said:Aqua di Gio is actually the worst fragrance EVER, by far! It smells UNPLEASANT, even outright DIRTY and it is the only fragrance that ever evoked feelings of HATE inside of me. I remember how basically EVERYONE was wearing it like 10 years ago, particularly the type of guys who thought they were cool but really were fake @ss motherfukking losers whose faces I wanted to punch in. I truly and utterly DESPISE Aqua di Gio and the people who wore it at it's height of popularity. I've never really experienced such negativity towards a fragrance, it stands unique... If anyone ever gave me a bottle of this GARBAGE, I'd feel INSULTED and smash it into the ground right in front of them!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.