You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Cologne is like wine, in a sense. It can make some women a little bubbly, slightly intoxicated, or flat-out drunk. I wouldn't recommend anything so strong that it would make women DRUNK by the smell of it. lolWelsh DJ said:What colognes / aftershaves would you guys recommend using? Is it a good idea to have a range of them?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i like the tom ford alot.Burroughs said:good stuff BB
since you go deep into this fragrance game I'm going to pose a question I've struggled with:
Guerlain Vetiver vs Tom Ford Grey Vetiver
guerlain..classic though intense.
tom ford...subtle, refined.
I give the edge to ford because of its daily wearability. (though the guerlain is the king of kings in many ways)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
if you liek the barbershop go get some clubman aftershave. that's basically what it is. the stuff they put on you at the barbershopHalfAddict said:Don't hate on the Old Spice bro...
I also like Hawleywoods no.9 which makes me smell like a barbershop.
Down Low you know putting cologne on fabric alters the scent. Neck, wrists, and chest, on bare skin then your body will carry the scent.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
pretty much.l you have your base smells and most knew stuff is just a variation on that.Bible_Belt said:I read somewhere that the number of different essential oils that are available to perfume and cologne makers is actually quite small, 250 or so. I think that's why the older fragrances have not been really been replaced. It's hard to come up with new ones.
Aqua di Gio is actually the worst fragrance EVER, by far! It smells UNPLEASANT, even outright DIRTY and it is the only fragrance that ever evoked feelings of HATE inside of me. I remember how basically EVERYONE was wearing it like 10 years ago, particularly the type of guys who thought they were cool but really were fake @ss motherfukking losers whose faces I wanted to punch in. I truly and utterly DESPISE Aqua di Gio and the people who wore it at it's height of popularity. I've never really experienced such negativity towards a fragrance, it stands unique... If anyone ever gave me a bottle of this GARBAGE, I'd feel INSULTED and smash it into the ground right in front of them!thebluntguy said:And I'm surprised nobody brought up the best smelling cologne on the market. Aqu Di Gio by Giorgio Armani is a can't miss scent. It's a bit outdated now, but I'm telling you, I've never met a woman that doesn't like the smell.
You say that you had this intense hatred for this cologne. Very weird if you want my opinion to hate something so viceraly. But you never said women hated it. I got news for you buddy....nobody cares if you like it or not. Men don't wear cologne to impress other men. At least not straight guys. This cologne gets great reactions from women. Afterall, that's why we wear the **** in the first place.Die Hard said:Aqua di Gio is actually the worst fragrance EVER, by far! It smells UNPLEASANT, even outright DIRTY and it is the only fragrance that ever evoked feelings of HATE inside of me. I remember how basically EVERYONE was wearing it like 10 years ago, particularly the type of guys who thought they were cool but really were fake @ss motherfukking losers whose faces I wanted to punch in. I truly and utterly DESPISE Aqua di Gio and the people who wore it at it's height of popularity. I've never really experienced such negativity towards a fragrance, it stands unique... If anyone ever gave me a bottle of this GARBAGE, I'd feel INSULTED and smash it into the ground right in front of them!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.