"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cologne? Not for me

Bonhomme

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I don't wear any of the crap. And the gal I've been seeing told me she likes the fact that I smell like a man.

A lot of the stuff is downright toxic. Really.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There's some good stuff out there though. It can really up your chances if you pick the right stuff.

Personal preference I guess.
 

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I used to use cologne, but most girls I've dated and the ones I'm friends with all tell me that they prefer very little if at all. Cologne can be good for a bar or club scene, but in general I don't find much use for it, and I seem to do just fine with the ladies.
 

Fatality

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I think cologne is totally unecessary. How much of a difference can it make if she doesn't like your looks or personality? How much of a difference can it make if she already has interest? I don't think much at all.

I also don't like perfume on girls. I hate it when I hear guys say "she smelled so good." It wasn't her that smelled good, it was the perfume.
 

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It is personal preference. If you're going to say that about cologne, they why not say it about cool clothes, or non-knappy hair every morning? Cologne brings a small sense of style if you use it right. But use it because you like it and don't depend on it as your main course of action to reel in women.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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al77

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Originally posted by NRM
It is personal preference. If you're going to say that about cologne, they why not say it about cool clothes, or non-knappy hair every morning?
Good point. For women men's clothes are very important. I suspect for some of them men's cologne might be important too.
Though it is not that obvious: your natural smell, pheromones might work even better for the right girl.
 

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Originally posted by Bonhomme
I don't wear any of the crap.
A lot of the stuff is downright toxic. Really.
I agree about toxic - it is not a good feeling even to know that we have to put some toxic stuff on our bodies.

Though how do survive in summer withoout any kind of deodorant? Talking shower 5 times a day?
By the way, I guess deodorants are much more harmful especially if applied regularly.
 
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