Well, high school is officially over (boy am i glad..) and now im off to college in 4 months. It's been a great 4 years, i have learned a lot and now that i have a clean start in college, im going to put them all in action. I am just wondering if anyone here is kind onough to give me some word of advice in building a good rep while at college. Thanks
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Collge-bound
- Thread starter Oni
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Heyjose25points
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Just say hi to random people during the first day, they're friendly...trust me(Don't feel bad if ur really nervous, I was...meeting people got rid of it). If someone is rude, that shows their character. You'll be surprised that most will say hi back. And when u see them around campus, they'll remember you. Get to know people in ur dorm hall, ur RAs, RDs, etc(They saved my ass countless times) Especially the females in ur dorm hall(I knew everybody on my floor, including the females. Join a club or hell, a fraternity(Make sure its a good one) College is what you make it. Make sure you have a good time, luckily i have two years left to put all this Don Juan stuff to test w/o regretting it like i did my first year when i gave up too early. Good Luck 
ShizamDaMan
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Yeah man, immediately start to create a huge social network. Like Hey Jose said, get to know everyone you can, especially those in positions of power (resident advisors, hall directors especially). They're so valuable to anything you do on campus.
My first year, I got involved with hall council, which then turned into working with campus wide groups, which turned into me getting to know some of the most important administrators on campus. Even when I was neck deep in sh*t for stuff I was in (don't ask, long story), I had people there to guard my backand stand up for me, and everything worked out ok.
I'm almost done with my second year, and no matter where I am on this campus, I can almost always find someone I know. There's more than 10,000 people living on my campus, so creating networks is very doable, especially early on.
Oh yeah, think about joining a sports team. Every sport has groupies
My first year, I got involved with hall council, which then turned into working with campus wide groups, which turned into me getting to know some of the most important administrators on campus. Even when I was neck deep in sh*t for stuff I was in (don't ask, long story), I had people there to guard my backand stand up for me, and everything worked out ok.
I'm almost done with my second year, and no matter where I am on this campus, I can almost always find someone I know. There's more than 10,000 people living on my campus, so creating networks is very doable, especially early on.
Oh yeah, think about joining a sports team. Every sport has groupies